Dorothy Stover

Helping You Bring More Love Into Your Life

LoveBlog - Unleashing your sexual goddess & my favorite sex toys

Before the LoveBlog, I used to have a weekly column called Freaky Friday on the Nantucket Chronicle.  I loved when people would write in asking their love and sex questions.  Sex is so taboo.  We are suppose to keep everything so quiet.  And while I of course love mystery and I believe we don’t have everything, I do believe we are doing ourselves a disservice by not having an open dialog when it comes to sexuality.  Because we do not have an open dialog about sex, I see people acting out and not understanding and respecting sex and their own sexual selves.

Hands down the best sex is sex that includes love and connection.  It could be the connection to ourselves or a partner.  When love and connection are involved with sex, the world makes sense.  We are better humans.  We have better relationships.  We have a healthier self. 

Today’s love lesson episode is a little tip for unleashing your sexual goddess and two of my favorite sex toys.  I love love love these toys!

Full disclosure I am not being paid for my review.  I love these toys so much, I have since gotten rid of all of my other toys.  These are just so perfect!!!

If you would like the three tips on how to unleash your sexual goddess, click here

In a month or so I will be launching my first course of my love school. The course will be a love 101 class, helping you gain a deeper relationship with your self and others so that you can attracted a deeper romantic relationship.If you would like to be notified of when these Love Lessons and the launch of the love school,  plus I give special treatment to those whom are subscribed to the Love Letter, join here, http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It's Free, the way love should be. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs! And thank you for reading/watching/sharing and checking in ❤️.

Link below for today's Love Lesson Episode

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Love Lessons Ep #9 Unleashing your sexual goddess & my favorite sex toys https://youtu.be/7gkSEf4Ud5U

Loveblog - Don't enter into a relationship until you have this first.

If your number 1 priority in life is your significant other you're liable to feel the following; unappreciated, lack of love, unbalanced, a feeling as though you have lost who you are and last but not least, drained.

Why? Because your number one priority should be yourself.  You should come before anything else; family, work, your significant other. You matter. You should be number 1. It's not selfish, it's common sense. If you're not feeling healthy and whole, you're not available for your family, friends, work or a relationship. If you keep giving yourself away, you'll have nothing left. Love should flow to and from you. Sometimes love doesn't come from others the way we would like it to. This is why it's important to love ourselves and understand we need to give ourselves the love we need and not rely on others to do it for us. 

In a month or so I will be launching my first course of my love school. The course will be a love 101 class, helping you gain a deeper relationship with your self and others so that you can attracted a deeper romantic relationship.If you would like to be notified of when these Love Lessons and the launch of the love school,  plus I give special treatment to those whom are subscribed to the Love Letter, join here, http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It's Free, the way love should be. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs! And thank you for reading/watching/sharing and checking in ❤️.

Link below for today's Love Lesson Episode what you need before entering into a relationship. 

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Love Lessons Episode 8 #1 Thing you need before you're in a relationshiphttps://youtu.be/WBTYoyFZMzQ

LoveBlog - 3 ways for you to fall in love with anyone

It’s 4 in the morning. I’m up to workout and accomplish a few things for me before the kids are up for school. These precious morning hours are spent on me; workout for me, meditate for me, read and continue education for me. I currently have no makeup, my hair isn’t brushed, my teeth are for sure not brushed. This is me. This is the real me. We are never more real that when we first wake up in the morning. The reason I say all of this is if I don’t love myself like this, who will? I also say this because the surface doesn’t matter. It’s all superficial. There will be people out there that will find me attractive and others that will not find me attractive. It doesn’t matter. There will be people out there that are attracted to you and not attracted to you. It doesn’t matter. What really and truly matters is in your heart. It’s your passions. It’s the good deeds you do that you don’t tell anyone about. It’s how you treat others. How you treat yourself. It’s your purpose that matters. When it comes to finding a significant other and being in a happy relationship this has nothing to do with the outer surface and everything to do with what’s inside and the connection. Chemistry comes in various different ways but the greatest comes down to heart.

If what’s on the outside is a priority for you, then you’re not ready for long lasting love. You’re not in that mind set to reach deep love. You still have some ways to go. You’re like shallow hal. And that’s ok. I would suggest staying single and work on yourself. Learn to love and accept yourself. The love of self will lead you to the deeper love. That really great passion and amazing sex love comes from the deep love. The love people are wishing for, the everlasting love has nothing to do with what’s on the outside and everything to do with what’s on the inside.

What is the type of love that matters and is best long term? Let me give an example from TV...One you can pick up and watch for yourself.  There’s a Sex in the City episode where Miranda is giving her husband’s mother a bath.  Her mother in law has dementia and was lost and dirty when she showed up at the house. The woman that has been cleaning Miranda’s house for years walked by the bathroom to see this and smiled to Miranda. Later said to Miranda’s “that is love” and hugged her.

This is the truth. If your significant other isn’t willing to treat your family like their family. If they aren’t willing or wanting to step up to help without being asked, don’t marry them. They are not ready for marriage and long term partnership. If you’re not ready for this deep of love, don’t get married. Sure date, wear protection because you don’t want to have a baby with any woman or man that isn’t ready for that type of love. Because things will get real.  You can still have attraction, great sex and a real life relationship.  It takes searching and seeking the best in each other and being there no matter what.  It takes seeing them for their good and their heart.

If you’re not there, there are things you can do to reach this deep kind of love and not focus on the surface.  This is this week’s Love Lesson, 3 ways to fall in love with anyone no matter what they look like.  Click here to watch this week’s Love Lesson.

If you would like to be notified of when these Love Lessons are posted plus I give special treatment to those whom are subscribed to the Love Letter, join here, http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It's Free, the way love should be. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs! And thank you for reading/watching/sharing and checking in ❤️


Today's Love Lesson Video

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Love Lessons Episode 7 - 3 Ways to fall in love with anyone no matter what they look likehttps://youtu.be/LFnkg8XliE0

Loveblog - The Sexiest and Most attractive Thing Ever!

Practically every client I have, whether they are a matchmaking client or a relationship client, they all want someone that is confident. When digging deeper into what is confidence and why do they want it the conversation usually leads to the following answers; because there's something about them and confidence is sexy.

For those out there that are concerned they will never find someone because of their age, their weight or their desires know that sexy and attractiveness has very little to do with apperences and more to do with how you carry yourself. If you're someone that feels good about who you are, you'll exude confidence. That's the most attractive and sexiest quality you can have. And know you don't have to be loud to be seen as confident. People are very attracted to those that have a quiet confidence.

That's what today's Love Lesson is all about, under five minutes of the sexiest thing about anyone.  To view today's Love Lesson Video click here; Love Lessons Episode 6 Whats The Sexiest Thing https://youtu.be/mWJPa8NnFmI

 

If you would like to be notified of when these Love Lessons are posted plus I give special treatment to those whom are subscribed to the Love Letter, join here,http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It's Free, the way love should be. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs! And thank you for reading/watching/checking in ❤️

Today's Love Lesson Video

Love Lessons Episode 6 Whats The Sexiest Thing  https://youtu.be/mWJPa8NnFmI

Love Lessons Episode 6 Whats The Sexiest Thing https://youtu.be/mWJPa8NnFmI

LoveBlog - Love Is A Choice

My great grandfather Murphy said "Love is a choice. Everyday you wake up and choose love". I like to think I am carrying his words on. I like to think I choose love everyday. I don't always. He was talking about marriage and making that choice of love in your marriage and that it needs to be made everyday. I have extended that to make the love choice everyday in every eay, not just romantic love. It's not always easy but when I do connect with my heart, I'm happier. I see for my clients that when they come from this space, they too are happier. 

Do you think you could make the love choice or at least strive to? When you're at the grocery store and someone takes your spot, will you choose love?  When someone posts something on social media and it offends you, will you choose love?  When someone you love doesn't love you the way you want to be loved, will you choose love?

There are lots of examples, challenging examples of choosing love. It's not always the easiest choice to make but it's the one that leads to a better world and a happier self.

It's also ok if you're like me and sometimes you stumble, yell and choose fear. We are human. I keep reminding myself after I stumble to realign myself with who I really am in my heart, mind and body...and that is love. And so are you. You are love. To view today's Love Lesson Video please click below. 

If you would like to be notified of when these Love Lessons are posted plus I give special treatment to those whom are subscribed to the Love Letter, join here, http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It's Free, the way love should be. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs! And thank you for reading/watching/checking in ❤️

Today's Love Lesson Video 

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 https://youtu.be/xvasdw0QdNY click here for today's Love Lesson Video 

LoveBlog - The Key To Happiness

The key to happiness is so simple.  It’s something in theory we are all doing but are we doing it well?  I recently read a statistic that showed that the older you are, the happier you are.  With 50+ being where people are the happiest and people in their 20s are the least happiest.  Why is this?  I think it has something to do with the question I posed last week (What if we treated others like they are dying?) plus the question I am posing this week (What if we lived like we are alive).  Simple enough right?  

 

Click here for today’s video Love Lesson, which is less than five minutes long.  If you would like to be notified of when these Love Lessons are posted plus I give special treatment to those whom are subscribed to the Love Letter, join here, http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs!

 

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LoveBlog - How to Rise with Love

Falling in love on the surface sounds absolutely wonderful doesn’t it!  Below, at the root of what it means to fall in love, essentially means to fall.  What happens when we fall?  We get hurt.  There is no way to not get hurt.  Even if you avoid people all together, you’ll still end up hurting because all humans need love and connection.  It’s a basic need.  So if one of your basic needs are not being met in some way, shape or form, you’ll hurt on some level.  I want you to love.  If falling in love is your game then do it.  Today I would like to offer an alternative, to rise with love.  To always remember to come from a place of love. I can’t say you won’t get hurt but you will feel better about your relationships with all people and how you are within the world.  I am putting myself out there a little more and have decided to start a YouTube Channel.  Here is the first episode of Love Lessons, How to not fall in love but to rise with love.  I hope you like it!  Now my channel is a baby channel.  This is my first video. So if you like it, please let me know.  If there’s something you think I can improve upon, please let me know.  It will really help me become my best self and hopefully help others with love within themselves and their lives.  I will have videos out every Tuesday.  (I’ve already recorded and edited the next three and plan on keeping this schedule and being consistent.)

 

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Here’s the first episode! Peace, Love & Hugs! Dorothy

 

Thank you for watching the first episode of Love Lessons, How to not fall in love but to rise with love.

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LoveBlog - The Illumination

“Shine your light and make a positive impact on the world; there is nothing so honorable as helping improve the lives of others.”  ― Roy T. Bennett  

When I was a little girl, my uncle Charlie would sometimes babysit my five siblings and me.  He would put on his favorite show M.A.S.H and make us watch it with him.  I hated this show with a passion.  Mainly because, at eight years old I resented having to do anything I didn’t want to do, and the show’s subject matter and humor was lost on me.  My uncle Charlie was blind and because he was blind, I thought I could sneak away and not have to endure what I believed to be an oh-so-boring show.  I would softly and slowly get up from my seat on the sofa and tip toe out of the tv room.  Half way to freedom I would hear, “Sit down!”    

“Gahhhh!  How do you know I’m up?  You’re blind!” I would shout, angry and frustrated.  

His reply “I’m blind, not deaf. Now sit. ”   

If you’re an old-school Nantucketer, you may even have known my uncle Charlie.  Named after his father (and my Grandfather) Charlie Flanagan, he was cut from the same cloth: Good sense of humor, a solid sense of right and wrong, and brought up with the desire to help others.  My uncle contracted Type I Diabetes as a very young child.  It put a lot of strain on his body.  As his eyesight deteriorated, he decided to have retinal surgery. The doctor told him to not lift anything heavier than five pounds, and to  go easy on himself.  While recuperating from surgery, he was awakened by a horrific car crash outside my grandparents’ house.  Being an EMT and firefighter, he immediately ran outside to help.  My uncle made a snap decision to put someone else’s life above his own.  There were three people in the burning car.  Without hesitation, my uncle pulled one person from the car and was pulling a second passenger out over the front seat when the Fire Department arrived. The stress of lifting the men cost him his eyesight.  My uncle left this world years ago while still a young man.  Still there are reminders of him that linger: books in Braille, his walking cane, and his medical bracelet.   

I don’t know what it’s like to go blind, to see the vibrant colors of life, the face of someone I love or the beauty of nature one day and then the next, darkness.  I’ll be honest, I do often take for granted that I have working eyes. Having sight is something many of us take for granted. Reality is, we don’t understand something until we experience it for ourselves, nor do we understand the loss of something so important until it’s gone.  I recently watched The Illumination, a film by TNP Ideafilm.  The film is about Gordon Gund, an American businessman and owner of the Cleveland Cavaliers.  He and his wife Lulie Gund are working together to cure blindness.  To me, this film is more than a story of traversing Point A to Point B. The film’s name speaks for itself, The Illumination,  which means light that shines on something.  I ugly-cried throughout the film for it illuminated a part of something within me. I won’t share exactly what because I don’t want to influence your experience.  When you see this film, perhaps you’ll have a different experience.  I will say this film is beautiful, peaceful, uplifting and a love story.  It is astonishing to me how such a short film could pack all of this into under twenty minutes.   Films such as these help us to experience someone else’s viewpoint, to lift the veil of someone else’s story to reveal how deep it may go within ourselves.  It’s a beautiful gift that we have people in the world who are willing to share their stories.  This film and the love between Gordon and his wife Lulie struck a mighty cord within me, especially in regard to my uncle.  If you know me, you know I love love, and always want to bring more love into the world.  To me, this is more than a great love story. It shows how deep love can be when two people come together for the greater good of all.    This inspiring encounter of Gordon and Lulie Gund and the work they are doing to help cure blindness illuminates the love you can see between these two beautiful souls.  It’s truly remarkable.  Not only does it make you believe the good in the world, but it is a reminder of what truly matters in life.  To know there are people who are bringing more love into the world through different avenues and achieving a goal is magic. It makes me think of the words of Naren Nagin, “Many have sight but few have vision.”   

I invite you to come see this movie and experience this remarkable story for yourself.  There will be one showing at 4:45pm-5:45pm Friday June 23rd at the Dreamland Main Theater.  This movie has won numerous awards, which includes Audience Favorite.  After the screening, Gordon Gund, Lulie Gund and Tom Scott, who directed the film, will be answering questions and discussing the film.  If you’re interested, click here to purchase your tickets.  Be sure to put my name, Dorothy Stover, in the ‘Friend of’ box.  I am almost certain this movie is going to sell out fast and I want to make sure I get the word out to you so you can come join in The Illumination.  It’s a Nantucket Love Bubble moment you have the opportunity to be a part of.  The $15 ticket guarantees you a seat for what’s sure to be an uplifting screening of The Illumination and the discussion with Gordon Gund, Lulie Gund and Tom Scott.  

About the Film (From The Nantucket Film Festival Website)  

Director: Tom Scott, Co-Director: Dan Honan | Producer: Pamela Duevel | USA / 2017 / 19 min / Documentary  

Friday, June 23, 2017  

4:45-5:45 PM (please note there will be plenty of time for viewers to make it to the Casino for the Screenwriters Tribute at 6:30pm)  

Dreamland Main Theater, 17 S Water St, Nantucket  

In a remarkable twist of fate, the decades-long effort of one blind person, Gordon Gund, makes it possible for another, Yannick Duwe, to see.  

Here’s the link again.  When you purchase your ticket, make sure to put my name, Dorothy Stover,  in the “Friend of” box.  Look forward to seeing you there!  

 

Peace, Love & Hugs!  

Dorothy