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I'm ok if you make fun of me for this love lesson!
All jokes aside, perhaps you feel like you're the gardener in the relationship or maybe you feel like you're the flower. Either way, you don't know how to break out of this pattern or you don't want to. Maybe this will give you permission to do so. If you have a harmonious relationship, sometimes it means having your partner take care of you or you taking taking care of your partner.
It's important to do and be both at some point in your relationship. Think back to a time when you really needed a friend and they were there for you no questions asked. Think back to a time you were there for someone no questions asked. It feels good. It's important. And that's community. Your partner is just one part of your community. Take care of each other. Tend to each other. Give each other what they need. And of course, don't forget about your needs.
Here's this week's Love Lesson Episode. Love Lessons Ep 24 Gardener & Flower
Sending love to you today!
Your health should be your number 1 priority. If you don’t have your health, you don’t have anything. This includes your mental, emotional, Spiritual, financial and physical health. Everything is connected. If you feel good, those around you feel good. If you feel like crap, are moody or unstable those around you are effected. So, if you’re mental, emotional, spiritual, financial and physical health are not at a 100% most likely your Love life isn’t either. Side note. Relationship are not always in harmony all the time.
Don’t fret, it takes self care; checking in with yourself and doing the work that is needed to make sure you’re in good health. It means making yourself a priority. It means being selfish every now and then. It means saying no when you want to say no and asking for something when you need it. It means doing what you need to do even when others don’t agree or find it odd. How many of you want to eat better or work out but have others speaking out against it? I certainly know from experience, I had a mentor say to me years ago, “when are you going to gain weight?” I had been eating really well, exercising and taking care of myself. I felt amazing! But this person was insecure with themselves and most people don’t like others to change. Change scares people. And taking care of yourself is very scary to many. Do it! No matter what others think of you or say. Do what you need to do to feel at your best and healthy self. Let others deal with their insecurities .
Which brings us to today's Love Lesson, Your Health Effects Your Relationship. Do whatever it takes to take care of health.
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This coming Friday, The 22nd of February, I will be hosting a free online workshop, 11 Ingredients For A Great Relationship. Sign up here; http://www.dorothydstover.com/events
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I teach a 7am yoga class at Dharma Yoga Nantucket on Tuesdays and Thursday's and one of my regular students mentioned they would love it if we had mirrors so that they could see themselves and correct themselves. Another regular chimed in saying, it is nice to have mirrors but also wonderful to go inwards and self-correct. She went on to explain that with time, our bodies remember. This conversation reminded me of a conversation I had while in India last year with one of my teachers, Vigette. He said, "Don't go off of what you look like in a mirror. That's not you, that's a different person." I love this concept. The mirror is just a reflection and not a good representation of who we are. It's not even what we truly look like. I'll bring this further and say the "you" you see in photographs is not the real you. Those pictures are of a different person. A reflection, not the whole you and you don't look the way you do in pictures as you do in real life.
The next time you look in a mirror and don't like what you see, remind yourself that's a different person. The next time someone snaps a photo you don't like, remind yourself, they're a different person. To look inwards and remind yourself who you truly are, find the perfect version of yourself in the very center of the heart of hearts within. Which brings me to this week's Love Tip. You are not the reflection in the mirror. The real you can only be seen by going inward.
Below please find the the weekly Dharma Yoga Nantucket schedule below. For class changes and to book your spot, click here for the website. Also this coming Saturday and Sunday is the Nantucket Yoga Festival. This weekend is where it all began for me. I found myself emerging from a love bubble. Each time I attend that bubble changes and evolves as I change. If you're on Nantucket this weekend, I hope you will come join us. There will be 25 teachers, 38 workshops, 14 free community classes and incredible venders this coming Saturday and Sunday. Check the schedule here.
8:15 am - 9:30 am Dharma Yoga all levels
10:00 am - 11:15 am Restorative Yoga
4:30pm - 5:45pm All levels. Free donation based class. Dorothy Stover
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You may know yourself very well, I'm not doubting that you do. I know for myself, I am always discovering bits of myself. And it's not as if they weren't there to begin with, it's almost like buried treasure that I forgot about. It's a joyful thing to get to know ones self better. The exercises today are to help you (and myself) dig and find the buried treasure within ourselves. At first these exercises will feel awkward but keep at them. You'll most likely find one or a combination which work for you or even come up with your own to help you moving forward. It's exciting work and the best job you'll ever have is working on yourself!
1. Observe life. Have you ever watched a movie and had an "ah ha!" Moment? For a moment, a day or how ever long you deem fit, just observe life around you as though you are watching a movie. You'll begin to see things from a different perspective. Instead of seeing the things those around you are doing wrong, you'll see your part in their life. You'll start to hold less attachment to what is right and what is wrong and be that of scientist taking in whatever comes forward and saving the information for later reflection. In fact, there's no need for judgment when we observe. I love this exercise because it allows us to not judge ourselves or others. Where there is judgment, there is disappointment. I don't want you to be disappointed with yourself or others. I know how it feels and I am not a fan. Anyone else's parents say, "I'm not mad, I'm just disappointed"? Almost, a punishment in itself to disappoint someone or yourself. Let's just observe and make no judgments.
2. Allow the world to be your mirror. Maybe you already do this, see yourself in others. Allowing the world to be your mirror and can do countless things. I personally like to observe and then what annoys or bothers me about someone, I look inward to myself, "do I do these things?" Most likely yes. That which we don't like in others, we usually have somewhere within ourselves. Again, make no judgment. You are not a bad person. BecomIng aware of yourself is all you need to do. Later you can heal or transmute from this.
3. Free write. Take some time to just write free form. You don't need to be a good writer. You don't need to know what you're going to write about. Just write. One of the best ways to discover more about yourself is to write. Write a story about nothing. Write a letter you'll never send and no one will ever read. Write a letter to your future self. When I started my first blog, I began on a whim and didn't expect people to read it. Then give yourself a day or a week and reread it. Then repeat. I often write on my phone at random times throughout the day. I find putting down the random thoughts, writing the random stories leads me places within myself I would have never known.
I know all of these exercises may not come naturally to everyone and actually, the less natural to you, the better. When we move outside our comfort zone, we make way for the things we desire in our lives.
Today's love tip is to be open to the possibilities.
One of my favorite tools to utilize the above exercises is yoga. This Wednesday's yoga class that I am guiding will have an emphasis on the solar plexus chakra. The solar plexus chakra rules willpower, strength, power and protection. This can effect us in various ways when this chakra (energy point) is not in balance; lack of willpower, feeling bullied or bullying others. When this chakra is in balance you feel strong, like a peaceful warrior. I also find this chakra related to food. Using my own experience, I have used food as comfort and protection. This has lead to weight gain around my midsection, which covers the solar plexus chakra. During this class at Dharma Yoga Nantucket, located up stairs in the hayloft at Bartlett's Farm we will help to unblock the solar plexus as well as balance it. We will also practice shielding, which will protect you from other people's energies. This way you won't take on other people's negative energies. Perfect for the summer months on Nantucket, large groups of people and any holiday gathering. 530pm. Reserve your spot here, or just show up. We have everything you need from mats to props to eye pillows. There's also a Dharma Yoga Nantucket app for faster bookings and checkins.
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This post is all about the easy ways to help you with your health, getting things done and helping to bring more love into your life. First up, the rule of three for fitness. Then the rule of three for productivity. Then finally, the rule of three for three areas of anyone's love life; dating, coupled up and self-love. Bonus: Simple ways to bring more love into your life everyday for the month of March.
Yoga Offering this week at Dharma Yoga Nantucket, 530pm upstairs at the Hayloft at Bartlett's Farm, I will be guiding a Hatha yoga class with an emphasis on the Heart Chakra. When this energy point in the body is balanced, all things you love flow to and from you. Next week will be the Throat Chakra. When this energy point is balanced you are able to speak and write your truth.
1. For your Health
Want to lose weight? or Maybe you're looking to be more active? Whatever your goal, follow this rule and you'll easily see your health transform. Either walk or run three miles everyday or work out for 30 minutes. If you don't have time for either, do a combination of both. Get up and walk about three times through out the day for at least 10 minutes as well as do quick little workouts for five minutes three times through out the day. Easy enough to walk first thing in the morning, then at lunch time and then in the evening for 10 minutes each. Then when you need a break from work or while you're watching tv or brushing your teeth do some exercises; squats, lunges, chair dips etc.
2. For Productivity
Recently I came across an email where they said you can get 1000 items off your to do list by completing three items everyday. Somedays, it may be less and others it may be more. But strive to complete three items everyday off of your tasks. A few of my clients started this as well as a friend or two. They saw a change in their lives in just one week. They felt more productive and it wasn't daunting.
3. For Love
A. Dating - If you're in the dating world I have a very simple rule; don't sleep with someone until after three months. This may seem like a long time but if you're looking to be with someone for the long haul this can help weed out those that only want you for one thing as well as someone you may not like if you didn't sleep with them. It's so very easy to feel more connected to someone we've slept with but what if you didn't sleep with them? Would you have felt so connected to them? Would they have made it as far as they did? This gives both people the time to see if this is a relationship of substance. Now I understand if you can't wait or don't want to wait. Give yourself three weeks. And if you can't do that, I'll have some more dating rules to help you soon. Join the LoveLetter to stay up-to-date.
B. Coupled up - Do something or say something nice (from your heart) to your partner once a day for three weeks. Sounds simple enough and maybe you think you already do do this. Change it up. Add to it. You do not need to let your partner know you're doing this. In fact, it's best if you don't let them know. Just let the love flow and not be forced. Some days you may have to dig deep but there's always something that you can find that you love about your partner or something you can do for them that would make them feel good. Just observe and see how your partner treats you after all of this.
C. Self-Love - The best love of all! Take at least three minutes of everyday for self care; Rub your neck/shoulders or feet for one minute. Then meditate for one minute. (Sit up straight. Inhale through your nose for four counts. Hold the breath for four counts and then exhale slowly through the nose for six counts. Practice for one minute.) Then take a minute and write down all of the ways you love yourself or what you love about yourself. Write down your strengths and the good things you do. There's always something that you're lovable for.
Which brings me to today's love tip: Everyone is lovable and Love Able.
Here's a challenge for you for the month of March. Let this month be a month of Love. Bring more love into your life everyday. Here is a list of the days and an item to complete for that day. Do as you like with the prompt. For example: on day 26th the prompt is to fall in love at first glance. Maybe this is with a person or maybe it's with a flower or a sunset. Take a photo and follow others @DorothyDStover and use the hashtag #MoreLoveMarch. Looking forward to all the love shared!
Peace, Love & Hugs!
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I was laying down on the day bed, tears rolling down my face, looking at the wall, him rubbing my back. "But you're my best friend. Is this really happening?"
"I don't know." He said softly. In a whisper, my heart broke even more.
"Will we still be friends? I can't imagine you not in my life?" I moved my head to look at him. Looking to him to decide our fate. Hoping he won't say what I think he'll say.
"Honey, I don't think we can do that."
Silence filled the room. The tears began to fill my eyes. I stared off hoping to find distance on the ceiling. Then he spoke.
"You're my best friend too. I wouldn't have been able to get through these past few years without you."
"Why are we doing this then?" I knew we had come to an end, but I still had hope for us. Were we not the perfect couple? Did we not have the solid foundation I thought we had? Desperate thoughts circulated in my head, returning to what a friend had said just days before. That we had a strong foundation.
Silence chilled my body, and the room felt colder than the outside world this late night in February.
"Will you hold me?"
"Of course." He took me into his arms and I breathed him in. I knew it would be one of the last times I would smell him or feel my cheek on his neck. These little things I had treasured since the moment we fell in love. I used to kiss his neck sweetly, and now my salty tears were soaking his skin.
"Let's go back to bed", he whispered as he held me close to him.
He walked me back to our bed. It was the first night in a long time I couldn't sleep. My eyes were wide, and I was fearful of the morning. How things had changed. I used to hold onto him throughout the night, not wanting to let him go when I would have to travel back home. I dreaded the slow drive to the airport and the plane ride home. I would cry because I missed him so much and not having him near me was as though I was leaving my heart behind. Now, I was on the opposite side of the bed. The bed he used to chase me around. I never liked to be touched while I slept until I met him. He needed to hold me at night. "You're chasing me in your sleep again", I would complain. "You can't hide from me. I'll always get you", he would tease. His smile would melt me. Spooning each other was his drug of choice, saying he needed to be close to me. In the beginning, it felt as though I was suffocating. Then holding each other became the only way I could sleep through the night. The only time I felt safe was in his arms; Feeling his fingertips run up and down my spine Or hearing him smell my hair. Now, we were worlds apart and all I wanted to do was reach out to him. Have him hold me and help me sleep. Having his arms and legs wrapped around me was a comfort blanket I didn't know how I would do without. It all became too much, I had to leave the room. How could I sleep next to him and not touch him? I found refuge on the sofa. I woke up to him sitting next to me, "I'll be back later today babe." He kissed me on the forehead. "Ok" I said in a daze. Was last night another nightmare? Was it just a bad dream? My dreams are so vivid, sometimes it's hard to determine what is reality and the dream world.
As he was walking away, he paused and looked back to me. "Let's not tell anyone. I don't want people to worry about us."
I had to hold back the tears. It wasn't just a dream. "Ok", I said hesitantly.
Months later when he shipped my things back to me, I fell to the ground crying, we were really over, what do I do now?
After a breakup, it's so very hard to imagine our lives without the other person. Even when we know we shouldn't be with each other, we are still a part of one another. Being apart feels as though we are incomplete. Sometimes it's for a brief moment, and other times we have to learn to live feeling incomplete.
How do we do this?
It will begin with one minute at a time. Then one hour. Then one day. Then one week. Then one month. Then one year. Soon, this person and who we were with them becomes something from a lifetime ago.
The thing is, you are incomplete but it's not forever. Energetically speaking, we do form attachments via our Heart Chakra. When someone you love is no longer around, our hearts do break a bit. The break, is not forever and you can heal this energetic heartbreak. You don't have to let the pain fester. This breakup was one of my hardest. I didn't know who I was without him. I didn't know my future without him. I didn't know there could be a future without him. I was scared. Fearful I would never love again. Fearful he would never come back. Fearful he would.
The process of pulling yourself together once more is a hodgepodge of clippings and experiences. Mixed up color tiles, making up a kaleidoscope as you twist and turn.
First things first. Someday this breakup, as well as the relationship itself, will make up parts of you that you will come to cherish. They led to better and more wondrous events, experiences and people than you could have ever imagined. You will get through this. The key is to get through and to not look back with sorrow but with joy.
Now, it's time to run away. Some say don't run away from your problems. I sat you're not running away from your problems, you're running to something. You need to gain perspective. Someone else's. You're too far gone to see clearly where you are in this. Find a different vantage point. Whether it's climbing a mountain or visiting a beach. Go where no one knows your name. Go to where you can be just another face in a sea of faces. Or where you won't see another face for miles. Give in to the moments that follow. These may be some of the best of your life.
For me personally, after this breakup, I had one of the best years of my life; I traveled, I met friends I am close to to this day, I moved across the country, I took big risks, some of which panned out, I fell in love again. All in all, I lived big.
What you'll find by way of these experiences is the better version of you, alone. You'll become stronger in ways you never dreamed possible. This will lead you to opportunities some only dream about.
The next step, is to be the best version of your incomplete self.
Love tip: Learn to be incomplete by having life experiences. Embrace it. What do I mean by this?
These life experiences will replace the feeling of being incomplete without your ex, with being incomplete because there's another goal to reach, or a mountain to climb, or a wave to ride, Or another day to love. The incompleteness won't be because of the lack of someone else but because of something else. Something calling to you, and you want to be ready to answer when it does. It's never too soon or too late to feel incomplete through life experiences. To be hungry for more of what life has to offer. You'll hopefully have this feeling until your last breath. And I hope with each experience you gain something new and grow and breathe beyond yourself. For only then will it truly not matter about love lost, but only about the life gained.
Offerings for this week:
Tuesday, February 9th 4pm Meditation at Nantucket Family Services. Just show up at 20 Vespar Lane. http://nantucketfamilyservices.org/
Wednesday, February 10th, Hatha Yoga for all Levels, Nantucket Dharma Yoga. Book your spot here: http://dharmayoganantucket.com/
Sunday, February 14th, 1-3pm Partner Yoga Workshop, Nantucket Dharma Yoga. For anyone who wants a joy, laughter filled afternoon. Come as you are and we will partner you up or bring a partner. Book your spot here: https://clients.mindbodyonline.com/classic/home?studioid=35031
Peace, Love and Hugs,
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I imagined our future. We'd be happily in love and married to each other. We'd travel the world. In the mornings, he would make me breakfast, because that's the type of guy he was. The afternoons would be spent making love, because that’s the type of couple we were. In the evenings, after I'd cooked us dinner, we'd cozy up to each other on the sofa by a fire. Or, in the warm weather, we'd be outside on the porch, reading our books, taking breaks to discuss each of them and getting lost in conversation. We were never at a loss for things to talk about. Then, he would pick me up and bring me to bed because that's what he always did, and I could hardly resist. Eventually, children would come along. He would make an amazing father. A good example of how a man should be. We would take care of each other and each other's families. All becoming one. We would explore the world as our kids grew up, because life experiences are important to us both and we both know travel is the greatest teacher. It would be a pretty damn good life, and we would know it.
I had him. He was perfect. The dream guy. Handsome, intelligent, worldly, perfect body, sweet, silly, we spoke easily to each other about anything, strong, good heart and soul, sexy as hell, dynamite kisser, successful, and best of all he was good to me and loved me for me.
Why would I give this up? It's not that I didn't love him. But I knew I didn't love him the way he deserved to be loved, and I want to love a man the way he deserves to be loved. You may think me dumb or foolish, and there are times I share your sentiment. I would be happy with this man, I have no doubt of that.
What is happiness? With this man I knew I would have a happy life. I've also been proposed to on multiple occasions. I knew of at least one of them where we would have been happy together. But is that reason enough to get married? Or settle down? Is this reason enough to stay with someone? I think life should be more about what experience you are looking for when it comes to relationships and love. I've loved enough for a thousand life times all before the age of 20. And in my 30s, the love I am experiencing is not that of romantic love but everyday love; love of myself, love of my family, love of friends, love of a beautiful day, love of the chance to love. So what is happiness? What is fulfillment? What makes a happy life? I personally would rather be alone to love the way I want to love, than to be with someone where we are settled on each other. Where we may love each other but do we don't belong to each other for this lifetime. I can feel it. So rather than stay with a man where we would make each other adequately happy, with moments of extraordinary sprinkled in, I chose to set him free. Because somewhere out there is a perfect woman for him, and he will mean everything to her and she will mean everything to him. He deserves that, and I don't want to stand in the way of him finding it.
If you do anything in this life, never settle and don’t be with someone for the sake of being with them. Love someone the way they should be loved, and be loved the way you should be loved. Never settle.
Peace, Love and Hugs,
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An emotional vampire is something that sucks your good energy out of you. How do you protect yourself from emotional vampire situation, people and events? Don't let them in. Be an observer. I'm not saying cut yourself off emotionally from everything. I'm saying be discerning when it comes to your emotions. Easier said than done, I know. It's something I myself am still learning to do. It takes time and practice. Sensitive souls wander this world constantly 'feeling' deeply and often times feeling bad for people and/or events. That doesn’t mean you have to be a martyr. If there is something terrible happening to someone or if there is an emotional event, protect yourself. You can still be there for other people without sacrificing your own wellbeing. Again, I know this is easier said than done. And I don't mean for you to be emotionless. Emotions are what makes us beautiful human beings. I just want you to be protected by other people's energies and situations that may cross paths with your energy. The hope is not to take on someone else's low energy to help them, the hope is to have strong energy and hold the vibration of love.
For example, a friend comes to you for help. Certainly listen and if need be, imagine you both, individually in a cocoon of golden light. This image not only protects you both but helps each of you heal and become stronger. Be there for them. You do not need to take on someone else’s pain. I know your sensitive heart wants to make it all better for others, but this doesn’t help anyone. What this will do is make you sick and them become codependent. What we want is to feel supported while we become stronger. No one wants to make someone else weaker, but it happens naturally when we don’t protect ourselves. Visualizing the cocoon or a protective shield around each of you helps.
When it comes to situations or events, send love and blessings to the situation. Again, make sure to picture yourself protected by a invisible shield of sorts. If you find this difficult, just place your hand over belly and hold it there. If you like, you may even see the situation or group of people protected. It also helps to look for the good. Even if it’s small.
These terrible, sad or heartbreaking moments can strengthen us. This isn’t the time to put up a wall, but instead to have a boundary. Boundaries reflect who you are and who you are not.
Love Tip: Boundaries strengthen everyone involved, walls separate us. Bring down the walls that block out love from coming in and going out. Have clear, peaceful boundaries that are connected to who you are as a person and your beliefs.
This love tip goes beyond emotional situations that can suck the life out of us, choose boundaries over walls.
I hope love flows to and from you always and if you are experiencing an emotional situation of your own, I am sending love to you.
Peace, Love & Hugs!
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Today's post is written by myself and my best friend Kelly Miller.
We are lucky enough to know and love several photographers, all of whom create stunning images, excel at their craft and are amazing people to boot. One of those absolutely fantastic people is Maria Carey, of Charlotte Carey Photography. Maria has brought an endless amount of love and joy to us and to her other clients. She truly brings out the best in everyone, and she makes you feel empowered to be you!
Let us share with you what we know about Maria. She is a caregiver, an animal lover, super smart, works in the medical field, and pursues her passion for photographing individuals, families, children and animals. She is a Scorpio, which means her love and passions run deep, and she is empathetic and intuitive by nature. These qualities are especially evident as she works her magic to bring out the best in those she photographs, as well as when she cares for her patients at the hospital. In short, Maria shines her light brightly, and she allows those around her to shine as well. In fact, she gives them a platform to shine. Prior to a session with her, Maria gets to know you a bit. Before you know it, it's as if she's gotten a glimpse of your soul, and she's formulated an idea of how she is going to translate it into beautiful images. Her energy and positivity are infectious, and you can't help but smile and have fun!
We would love for you to check out her website HERE where you can enjoy a sampling of her work. Then, come back here and leave a comment telling us something you love about her or her work. That comment will enter you to win today's giveaway, which is a mini headshot session with Maria, or what others have called an 'empowerment photoshoot'! It's unlike any headshot you'll ever have witnessed. Her clients don't necessarily need headshots for a professional reason, but man do they feel their best afterwards! When they receive the photos, they are beyond excited because of how wonderful Maria has made them feel just to be themselves. We can speak from experience. We cried when we saw the fabulous moments she captured of our best friend photoshoot. She is so very talented, and we love her so!
See for yourself why we love her so much! Here's a favorite memory from the best friend photoshoot we had, as well as the headshots of each of us. So happy! So very grateful for these memories!
Peace, Love & Hugs!
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I love me some yoga! I've been practing since I was little. Really, before I knew what yoga was. I would just stay in the poses and hangout. Then my mother gifted me with a yoga book and then a vhs. (Vhs is the older sibling to dvd). When I was in middle school, a woman would come in during our lunch break and a few of my friends would practice with her. After the class, I would bite into my peanut butter and jelly sandwich and the taste was unbelievably delicious! I came to the conclusion that yoga makes food taste better.
Now that I'm older I see that yoga makes everything better; my body, my mind, how I interact with myself and others, my relationships and so much more I can't even put into words. Yoga makes life better. This past spring, I went to India and was enrolled in the 200 hour teacher training at Rishikesh Yog Peeth. Incredible experience. Something I took away from this experience was to not lose my personal practice. We are better teachers when we live it and do it ourselves. I try to remember this everyday. Now I am teaching and it's brought so much joy to my life. I love the one on one experience of teaching privately and I love teaching in a dedicated space. My yoga home is Dharma Yoga Nantucket. I find with each class I learn something new about myself and about others. There are so many yoga benefits but I find, yoga finds people when they are ready. In India, I learned the path to yoga begins when you hit rock bottom. That's the true beginning of ones yogic path. How beautiful and truthful is that?!
For me, the path to teaching began during the Nantucket Yoga Festival. After I emerged from that weekend, I was in a love bubble! It was an unbelievable experience. If you want to experience the weekend for yourself, this year the festival will be July 8-10th 2016. There are some special passes as of now you may purchase. Use the code HOLIDAY and save $75. Click here to do so.
For today's giveaway, I want to share my practice with you. Someone will win a free private session with me. The session will include the asanas (poses) pranayamas (breathing techniques) a healing meditation and a few other items I'll cater to your needs. With today's technology, we don't need to be in the same room. So, if you live off of Nantucket you still qualify. To enter: share this post or comment below.
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Continuing my education is so very important to me. I am always have a book I am into, learning something new or enrolled in a course. With online education we are able to broaden our horizons anywhere at anytime. We live in a time where everyone should be educated. In regard to how important education is, others have said it better than I what education affords the world. Here are some of my favorite quotes about education.
"Education is the most powerful weapon which we can use to change the world." - Nelson Mandela
"The function of education is to teach one to think intensively and to think critically. Intelligence plus character, that is the goal of true education."
- Martin Luther King
"It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." - Aristotle
"The purpose of education is to replace an empty mind with an open one." -Malcolm Forbes
"Children should be taught how to think, not what to think."
- Margaret Mead
"The highest result of education is tolerance." - Hellen Keller
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On Day 17 of 40 Days of Love I spoke of self love and self care. Today I want to share some of my favorite ways to take care of myself. I've written about walking on Day 3. On Day 10 I shared how I keep my chakras clear. On Day 8, Candlelight Restorative Yoga. In the coming weeks I will write about yoga (bonus: there will be a giveaway!) and today I would like to share some other healing modalities that may help you; Network Spinal Analysis, Emotion Code, massage, acupuncture, reflexology and natural medicine.
Network Spinal Analysis: Sometimes referred to as “Network Chiropractic” or “networking,” is a chiropractic technique that regards your body as a wholeintegrated system, not just bones. It taps into the body's own potential to heal itself.
My Review –I first heard of NSA from a fellow SOMM student (School for the Modern Mystic.) She mentioned that she felt her energy go through the roof and her heart open after one session. I was curious, so I took to Google and researched. I found someone in MA that was near my sister and booked an appointment. During the first session, she helped me with some of my hip issues. I had more range of movement than I had in years! After a few sessions, my mother saw me and said that something had changed about me. She noticed a difference. Which was a very cool feeling! I will say, the first few sessions can be tough because the day afterwards your body aches. Dr. Jennifer said it’s because your body is now becoming aware of that area. So true! NSA helps to bring awareness and your breath back into your body. Dr. Jennifer is in Massachusetts. (Mention my name and receive $100 off, making it $35 for your consultation, first session and follow up.
Here’s her website and contact information:
Emotion Code: The Emotion Code is a powerful and simple way to rid yourself of unseen baggage. Releasing trapped emotions often results in the sudden disappearance of physical problems, self-sabotaging habits, and recurring relationship difficulties.
My Review –What if getting rid of the pain in your body and in your life was as easy as swiping your fingers?…It can be! Emotion Code is something for everyone and everyone can do it. I’ll write more about this as I experience more. But so far I have released lingeringheartache, depression, residual grief, worry, feelings of helplessness, loss, betrayal, anger, guilt, anxiety and so much more. It sounds crazy, I know, but I have felt myself become lighter each time I do a session on myself. The book doesn’t cost a lot,and it’s something you can doyourself. Learn more here:
Massage: The rubbing and kneading of muscles and joints of the body with the hands, especially to relieve tension or pain.
My Review –If I could get a massage and/or have someone play with my hair everyday, I would! I love massages! There’s so much more to massages than the above definition. Not only does a massage relieve tension and pain, but massages help the body in the elimination process, can help youto lose weight, smooth your skin and drain the lymphatic system. I highly recommend Kim Bettincourt. Not only is the massage you will receive from her amazing, but she also uses aroma therapy. I would like to try the Sacral Cranial Therapy. Ask her about it. Here’s her website and contact information:
Acupuncture: A system of complementary medicine that involves pricking the skin or tissues with needles, used to alleviate pain and to treat various physical, mental, and emotional conditions. Originating in ancient China, acupuncture is now widely practiced in the West.
My Review –I’ve had sessions here and there, and I have found acupuncture to be amazing! It’s a great way to help balance and heal the body. Tiny needles are used, but in my opinion, do not hurt. My mother used an acupuncturist when she had severe Pulmonary Scarcoidosis, and it relieved many of her issues. She still speaks with great love, fondness, and gratitude of her long-term acupuncturist, the late Rachel ParrottoBudzynski.She credits Rachel with helping to save her life.
I recommend Tammy Belanger as your local acupuncturist. Here’s her website and contact information:
Reflexology: A system of massage used to relieve tension and treat illness, based on the theory that there are reflex points on the feet, hands, and head linked to every part of the body.
My Review –A few years ago, Wendi Murrell was finishing up her training for Reflexology. I had a friend who texted me and suggested that I might be interested in some sessions and forwarded me Wendi’s number. It was an incredible experience. It felt like a whole body massage and I could feel energy move though my body. Within one of the sessions she broke up a chronic cough from which I was suffering. At another appointment, she moved a Winter cold out of my system. (And she helped me with some of the issues I was having with my lady business.)She’s my go to when I am sick! Here’s her website and contact information:
Naturopathic medicine: (sometimes called "naturopathy") is a distinct system of primary health care that emphasizes prevention and the self-healing process through the use of natural therapies.
My Review –Years ago my mother was diagnosed with Pulmonary Sarcoidosis. She had scores of fleshy tumors in each lung. Crazy! At one point, doctors in Boston told her to make her arrangements if she didn’t go back on Prednisone, and oxygen at night. But, being my mother, she wasn’t going to just roll over and go “tits up” as she has said. Instead, she connected with a Naturopath who was helping my Uncle Joe. There was a major difference and change within my Mom in a few short months. At her next doctor’s visit, they couldn’t believe she was alive let alone thriving the way she was.
Cut to some years later when I was 19 years old, I became sick. My mother took me to the Naturopath and within a few months I was feeling and looking amazing! I highly recommend working with a Naturopath, especially for your diet. It’s a fact that cancer can not live in an alkaline body. My sister is finishing up her schooling and, come May 2016 she will be a full-on Doctor of Naturopathy! Yeah! If you would like to see her now, here is her contact information. I should warn you, the appointment is a commitment to your health and wellbeing. It’s not like a regular doctor’s visit where you’re in and out. I recently went for an appointment and I was there for over an hour…maybe even two. I love that they got a complete picture of who I was and came up with a plan that was specifically for me.
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These are just some of the healing modalities I have experienced where I felt a difference in my body, mind and spirit. Our bodies have the power to heal themselves. Others can aid that, and I think it's a combination of many things, depending on our needs. Maybe it's all the above. Maybe it’s just a few sessions of one thing or another. Everything we need is on this planet. I believe that there are cures for every type of disease, cancer or alignment issue.We must become still and silent, listen to our bodies, be open to the possibilities, and believe in miracles.
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Which clothing item of yours makes you feel good when you put it on? For me, I love dresses and I also love my jammies. The second I get home, I am in my jam jams. It's as though I walk into the threshold of my home, up pops the jammies and I walk through said jammies and they are instantly on. Like something out of a syfy movie. It's worked out well that a nice chunk of my time is spent in yoga/workout clothes. These are acceptable public jammies.
If I'm not in my jammies, I prefer a dress. I have a feminine body, which in plain terms means curvy. Dresses instantly make me feel put together and they bring a smile to my face. I love to put on a pretty dress and maybe do a twirl around as though I were five. I feel more confidant and secure with myself in a dress. In short, I feel I just look my best in a dress. Plus, it's easy...almost likes jammies. In regard to dresses, you don't have to think about whether the top matches the bottom. Just throw it on and you're out the door. I do miss the days of old where people dressed up. I think most people look more attractive in suits and dresses. Dresses help women hide troublesome areas of their bodies. These troublesome areas are really just the parts that make a woman feel insecure about her body. Reality is there are no troublesome spots, only troublesome thoughts. A dress allows a woman to show off her best features, which reminds a woman how truly beautiful she is. So big, small or adverage, she looks amazing. I love that about dresses. It may seem trivial but its the little things in life that can turn a day around. A dress can do it for me.
What makes you feel good to wear? Maybe it's an old tshirt? Or maybe it's a full on suit or fancy dress? Anything you own that makes you feel comfortable gets the 'ok' in my book.
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"Aunty Dorphy! Let's do yoga!" My three year old niece running to grab one of the yoga mats I brought to my sister's house. I've been teaching yoga to my nieces since last March and it's delightful! All of the yoga poses are based on elements found in nature, so it just makes sense that animal yoga is just really yoga broken down to the basics of nature. My nieces love it. "Let's do monkey now!" "Let's be the wind!"
I've seen animal yoga transform kids. I was at a brunch a few months ago and a couple brought their son to party. As we are all enjoying our frittatas, the little boy was running around the crisp and clean apartment with blueberry all over his face and hands. He was a very sweet and high energy little boy. I got up from the table at one point. Took out two mats from the corner of the room. Placed them across from each other and ask the little boy if he wanted to practice animal yoga. Confused and energetic, the little boy was still jumping about but he was curious. "This is your mat and this is my mat. You'll stand here." I said pointing to his mat. He jumped onto the yoga mat. I proceeded to sit down, legs crossed. We began with our breathing. "How do animals breath?" I showed him slowly breathing in and out of my nostrils. Then I moved on once he calmed down a bit with different animals and we focused being a frog, then a tree. And the room of adults were amazed to see the little boy calming down and following each pose. We were all loving every minute of it!
If you're a parent, I highly suggest engaging your children in animal yoga. The Internet is full of different poses and ways to explain them to your child. Plus, animal yoga helps to loosen up your walls. We don't play enough as adults. Also, the breathing techniques really help your children in so many ways; brings more oxygen throughout their bodies, helps them relax and even aids them when they are stressed. Why, just the other month while visiting my sister, my six year old niece showed me that she remembered how to do the alternating the nostril while breathing technique. Which helps with headaches, a stuffy nose and stress. Kids have all of this within their lives, even if adults don't recognize the stress factor. Children are so sweet and open, then can become easily hurt. Everything is so new and different. They are constantly changing in all forms. It helps to have an outlet and a tool to help them.
I want to hear from you! What do you think about animal yoga? Something you're willing to try even without kids?
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I have a favorite store. This favorite store isn't a clothing shop. They don't carry shoes. No they carry the secret ingredient, love in the form of food. It just also happens to be where my drug of choice resides, chocolate. I'm not a candy person. I can easily say no to pies. But I find it hard to resist chocolate. So, for today's post, I've chosen something that has three things I love rolled into one shop; the shop itself, chocolate and their spices! Oh and tea...so four things I love in one tiny, flavor packed shop.
When you walk into Ambrosia, you're transported back in time. From the antique card catalog that holds spices, to the beautiful packaging of the spices, and the special treat of gift wrapping. Claudia is one of the owners of this beautiful little shop, and I could sit and listen to her all day. She is a gentle, peaceful soul. You'll feel that peace cascade over you as you walk into her shop. The smell of the divine, freshly made chocolates wafts through the air. The spices tickle your nose, and inspire you to feel as though you could cook anything. Many of the restaurants around town use Ambrosia's spices and for good reason. Claudia grows many of her own, as well as bringing several fair-trade, hard to come by spices into the shop. That combination could transform any kitchen and cook into a quality chef. One of my favorite combinations, and I never thought I would say this, is the Monkey Bar, which is curried chocolate with banana chips. It's so unusual, yet the flavors meld unbelievably well, and you won't want to share or tell your friends for fear you won't get more. Ooops!
I love the feeling of browsing through her shop. It's a small store and I never feel rushed or awkward, which I can feel in other stores. Often you feel the shop keepers breathing down your neck, wondering if you're going to buy something or just walk out. That's not the way at Ambrosia. You will feel at home and welcomed. Your questions will be answered in a way that makes you feel as though you are asking all the right questions. If you like to have an experience while shopping, you love to cook, you love chocolate, or all of the above, please make sure to check out Ambrosia. Let me know about your experience!
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Something that has changed my life is meditation and taking care of my chakras. I want to shout from the roof-tops how much my life has changed and spread the word how you can do it too!
What I looked like over a year ago.
Tired all the time- emotionally, physically and mentally drained. Bouts of anger. Easily blown off the handle. Lack of understanding of othersLack of compassion for others. Trouble with mindfulness.Anxiety.Caring what other people thought of me. Lack of strength and fortitude in my beliefs.Weight issues.Feeling lost.Worrying all the time about the past, present and future.
In short, this sums up what was happening in my world a little over a year ago. I was also a fairly positive, happy person to be around but I had so much inner conflict. So did others around me, so I just assumed it was normal. Today I don't even recognize the person I once was, and I am so grateful for the change. This week, I'd like to share with you how this transition came about. It was set into motion by a series of events that allowed me to be more receptive to change, which in turn led me down a very distinct and enlightening path.
The Nantucket Yoga Festival 2014. I walked out of that weekend in what I refer to as the love bubble. It was truly incrediable! This weekend allowed me to be more receptive and ready to move to the next step in change.
On Thursday of that week, Cate Raphael invited me to have an Akashic Records reading. She asked me if I would like to have my chakras cleared, but I didn't know what to think because I had never heard of chakras! I said 'yes' with hesitation. She had me hold a bunch of stones and off we went. When I left, I felt amazing! I felt my world had changed, and truly it had. My worries melted away, and I was left with this euphoric feeling that I wanted all day, everyday. My problem was I didn't know where to go from there. I researched for a bit, finding out that the chakras are energy points within you but got off track going any further. Then Cate posted something about Belinda Davidson and the School of the Modern Mystic. It seemed like the direction I wanted to take after a lot of thought and mediating on it, so I decided to sign up for Belinda's course.
My life now, less than a year later, feels peaceful and in harmony. I feel I am capable of so much. I feel strong mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially. I feel like a bright light in the world and I am only getting stronger. I have gained patience while finding my life's purpose. I am secure in myself and my body. Which is huge for me because I always struggled with liking and loving my body. I have gained peace and strength in all aspects of my life. Most of all, I am happy! My relationships have improved, and I am able to protect myself so I am not affected by other people's energies. The course has taught me to heal myself, how to bring what I need into my life, and to find harmony in my life. My skin is clearer, (which is a huge bonus!) People see me and think I'm in my 20s not 30s and I was also able to heal and cure a troubling medical issue I've had since I was a teenager. The best part is that I accomplished this on my own with the guidance of the people at SOMM. That experience has been empowering in its own right.
I am writing this because I love how my life has changed from this simple thing of taking care of my chakras. I want this for everyone and I believe this can help anyone and everyone. Personally, I believe we should teach this course to our children to afford them this knowledge and these abilities at an early age. I wish I learned all of this before becoming a teenager and an adult. I want people to feel that their lives are in balance, and that they are living their life's purpose. When something comes along that rocks their boat, they feel more than capable of handling it. I also want people to be able to manifest what they want and need into their lives effortlessly. I want each person in the world to feel like a bright light, to shine and to inspire others to shine. This course teaches these things, and it is a fantastic place to start this amazing journey or continue your development.
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Winter on the island can be cold, dark, and lonely with nothing to do, especially come the weekend. But last winter, I discovered the best happy hour, just perfect for chilly, wintry evenings- candlelight restorative yoga. The first class I attended felt like a warm hug from a beloved friend I hadn't seen in a long time and missed dearly. It was a slice of heaven, and it was just what my body was calling for. The soft light of candles fills the room, you do about three to five poses supported by blocks and bolsters. It feels as though you are receiving a massage; the room is inviting, the music is soothing and the lighting is easy on the eyes. It's perfect for those that have had a stressful week, are injured, or who have never practiced yoga before. It's heaven on earth!
Your body is truly able to not only relax, but restore itself to its natural state. Regular stresses throughout our days can prompt our bodies' 'fight or flight' responses, throwing our bodily systems out of whack. This lovely yoga practice helps return the state homeostasis within the body. Homeostasis is when all of the systems in your body are functioning in harmony, and your body is able to heal itself, while you are able to think clearly and be at peace. If you're on Nantucket, make sure to check out Dharma Yoga's Friday night candlelight restorative yoga class at 5:30-6:45pm up in the Hayloft at Bartlett's Farm. I hope you'll get back to me and share the part you loved the most. If you're off island, there are plenty of places that offer restorative yoga, ask if they would be willing to do it by candlelight. Your body will thank you for it!
Also, Dharma Yoga Nantucket is having a restorative yoga workshop this Saturday from 1-3:00pm upstairs in the Hayloft at Bartlett's Farm. It's going to be delightful!
I would love to hear from you; have you tried restorative yoga before? What ways do you unwind? Maybe this is something you're willing to try?
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