Dorothy Stover

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LoveBlog Why I gave up the man that loved me completely and deeply.




I imagined our future. We'd be happily in love and married to each other.  We'd travel the world. In the mornings, he would make me breakfast, because that's the type of guy he was. The afternoons would be spent making love, because that’s the type of couple we were.  In the evenings, after I'd cooked us dinner, we'd cozy up to each other on the sofa by a fire. Or, in the warm weather, we'd be outside on the porch, reading our books, taking breaks to discuss each of them and getting lost in conversation. We were never at a loss for things to talk about. Then, he would pick me up and bring me to bed because that's what he always did, and I could hardly resist. Eventually, children would come along. He would make an amazing father. A good example of how a man should be. We would take care of each other and each other's families. All becoming one. We would explore the world as our kids grew up, because life experiences are important to us both and we both know travel is the greatest teacher. It would be a pretty damn good life, and we would know it.

I had him. He was perfect. The dream guy. Handsome, intelligent, worldly, perfect body, sweet, silly, we spoke easily to each other about anything, strong, good heart and soul, sexy as hell, dynamite kisser, successful, and best of all he was good to me and loved me for me.

Why would I give this up? It's not that I didn't love him. But I knew I didn't love him the way he deserved to be loved, and I want to love a man the way he deserves to be loved.  You may think me dumb or foolish, and there are times I share your sentiment.  I would be happy with this man, I have no doubt of that.

What is happiness? With this man I knew I would have a happy life. I've also been proposed to on multiple occasions. I knew of at least one of them where we would have been happy together. But is that reason enough to get married? Or settle down? Is this reason enough to stay with someone? I think life should be more about what experience you are looking for when it comes to relationships and love. I've loved enough for a thousand life times all before the age of 20. And in my 30s, the love I am experiencing is not that of romantic love but everyday love; love of myself, love of my family, love of friends, love of a beautiful day, love of the chance to love. So what is happiness? What is fulfillment? What makes a happy life? I personally would rather be alone to love the way I want to love, than to be with someone where we are settled on each other. Where we may love each other but do we don't belong to each other for this lifetime. I can feel it. So rather than stay with a man where we would make each other adequately happy, with moments of extraordinary sprinkled in, I chose to set him free. Because somewhere out there is a perfect woman for him, and he will mean everything to her and she will mean everything to him. He deserves that, and I don't want to stand in the way of him finding it.

If you do anything in this life, never settle and don’t be with someone for the sake of being with them.  Love someone the way they should be loved, and be loved the way you should be loved.  Never settle.

Peace, Love and Hugs,

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40 Days of Love - Day 10 - Meditation & Chakra Clearing + Giveaway


Something that has changed my life is meditation and taking care of my chakras. I want to shout from the roof-tops how much my life has changed and spread the word how you can do it too!

What I looked like over a year ago.

Tired all the time- emotionally, physically and mentally drained. Bouts of anger. Easily blown off the handle. Lack of understanding of othersLack of compassion for others. Trouble with mindfulness.Anxiety.Caring what other people thought of me. Lack of strength and fortitude in my beliefs.Weight issues.Feeling lost.Worrying all the time about the past, present and future.

In short, this sums up what was happening in my world a little over a year ago. I was also a fairly positive, happy person to be around but I had so much inner conflict.  So did others around me, so I just assumed it was normal.  Today I don't even recognize the person I once was, and I am so grateful for the change.  This week, I'd like to share with you how this transition came about. It was set into motion by a series of events that allowed me to be more receptive to change, which in turn led me down a very distinct and enlightening path.

July 2014

The Nantucket Yoga Festival 2014. I walked out of that weekend in what I refer to as the love bubble.  It was truly incrediable!  This weekend allowed me to be more receptive and ready to move to the next step in change.

On Thursday of that week, Cate Raphael invited me to have an Akashic Records reading. She asked me if I would like to have my chakras cleared, but I didn't know what to think because I had never heard of chakras! I said 'yes' with hesitation.  She had me hold a bunch of stones and off we went. When I left, I felt amazing! I felt my world had changed, and truly it had. My worries melted away, and I was left with this euphoric feeling that I wanted all day, everyday. My problem was I didn't know where to go from there. I researched for a bit, finding out that the chakras are energy points within you but got off track going any further. Then Cate posted something about Belinda Davidson and the School of the Modern Mystic. It seemed like the direction I wanted to take after a lot of thought and mediating on it, so I decided to sign up for Belinda's course.

My life now, less than a year later, feels peaceful and in harmony. I feel I am capable of so much. I feel strong mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially. I feel like a bright light in the world and I am only getting stronger. I have gained patience while finding my life's purpose. I am secure in myself and my body. Which is huge for me because I always struggled with liking and loving my body. I have gained peace and strength in all aspects of my life. Most of all, I am happy! My relationships have improved, and I am able to protect myself so I am not affected by other people's energies. The course has taught me to heal myself, how to bring what I need into my life, and to find harmony in my life. My skin is clearer, (which is a huge bonus!) People see me and think I'm in my 20s not 30s and I was also able to heal and cure a troubling medical issue I've had since I was a teenager. The best part is that I accomplished this on my own with the guidance of the people at SOMM. That experience has been empowering in its own right.

I am writing this because I love how my life has changed from this simple thing of taking care of my chakras. I want this for everyone and I believe this can help anyone and everyone. Personally, I believe we should teach this course to our children to afford them this knowledge and these abilities at an early age.  I wish I learned all of this before becoming a teenager and an adult. I want people to feel that their lives are in balance, and that they are living their life's purpose. When something comes along that rocks their boat, they feel more than capable of handling it. I also want people to be able to manifest what they want and need into their lives effortlessly. I want each person in the world to feel like a bright light, to shine and to inspire others to shine.  This course teaches these things, and it is a fantastic place to start this amazing journey or continue your development.

Belinda has a chakra meditation for busy people and I would love for you to win this giveaway as well as the journey to the white meditation that will help raise for vibration to love and find peace within yourself.

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Here is where you can learn more about the chakra clearing meditation and purchase your own. She is having a special right now, make sure to check out the chakra meditation and the journey to the white for $19.95aud (less in USA) Click Here for more details

Usually this runs for just under $40 but you're able to receive this for more than half the price. It's amazing and both meditations I do everyday. 

Peace, Love & Hugs, 


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