Dorothy Stover

Everything I do in life, I do for Love.

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LoveBlog -Freedom


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✨Freedom✨

Years ago, my friend Doug Smith planted the freedom seed within me. Over a decade ago he was making moves to be able to work from anywhere with his business True Nutrition . This inspired me. About five years ago, I also began moving toward that type of occupational freedom. I wanted to be able to work from anywhere and to be with those I love, to travel freely and not be tied to just one spot. 

Now I have that freedom. I can be anywhere in the world, do what I love and contribute. I work every day and a few times a week, I wash my hair, throw it in rollers and plug away just like this. This is what I look like behind the scenes.  I work from my bed when I'm home because my cat Jack will climb all over me if I work from a desk. So I brought the desk to the bed. He lays on my lap or beside me and I work away. I love it! Plus, the bed is where I get all my good ideas 💕

Last year I was able to pack myself and Jack up and help my family. While my mother was in the hospital, I was able to be with her and not think about an office I would have to get back to. Being with her during that time, and then having that freedom in the first few months of mourning her, was such a blessing. So many people don't have that luxury to really dig deep into their grief. I remember getting off the phone with a new client and then bursting into tears. I was alone with my cat.  I could break down completely, then slowly put myself back together and go back to work when I felt ready to. 

My office is always with me. In the coming months I'll be moving back to San Diego, but I’ll always have time for Nantucket. People ask, "what will you do out there?". 

And my reply, "Same thing I'm doing now"! 

Working from anywhere does have its challenges. I wake up and I start working. This isn't so much a challenge per se because I love what I do, but the boundaries are not quite clear. There are also days I'm not motivated and if you work from home or have your own business you need to stay motivated. No one is going to cover me or do the work for me. I am 100% responsible. Freedom is precious.💕

One of my gigs that allows me to work from anywhere is with a great company called @tawkify. I'm a matchmaker with them. If you're interested in learning more about being a matchmaker, direct message me and we can chat. If you're into love and helping people, this will be perfect for you! 

I have spaces left for The Love School Feedback group. You'll have access to The Love School for life as well as a bunch of great goodies! Email me if you're interested dorothy@dorothydstover.com

LoveBlog - Free healing/prayer sign up & new Love Lesson - Forgive them, they don't understand

I recorded this week's love lesson while my mom was in the hospital almost two months ago. Actually, I have this video and two others I will be posting in the coming weeks. All recorded during this time. I didn't get around to posting them because my focus was on my mom and I couldn't quite wrap my head around much.

My mom has since passed and now more than ever I need my own love lessons.

We are each walking a path that no one can walk for us. No one can learn the lessons we need to learn. We certainly can help each other as well as give advice and guidance but we can't live life for someone else nor can others live life for us.

With that said, people won't know or understand where we have come from or our current circumstances because they are not us. They may have walked a similar path and have some form of understanding. It will never be exactly the same. Why? Because no two people are exactly the same. We all have different experiences and perspectives. It's neither good nor bad. It does make for miscommunication and misunderstandings. It also makes for an opportunity to forgive because not everyone is going to be there for you the way you would like them to be. Not everyone will react to a situation the want you expect them to react. Not everyone will process the same way you process. This can be frustrating. So forgive. Let it go. Their path is not your path. Challenging to say the least. I understand it full well having been through the time in the hospital with my mom and now grieving. People, including myself, say stupid things that don't make sense.  My mother always taught me no two people grieve the same. I'll take that further, no two people see the same way. 

I wrote last week how prayers and healings really helped my mom and how I would like to turn my grief into love and honor for her. Each week people are able to sign up for their prayers and healings here. It's free. Lay down in a comfortable space at 9pm every Tuesday. Be open to receive the healing and prayers. http://www.dorothydstover.com/healingprayers/

Click below for this week's Love Lessons EP 17 Forgive them they don't understand https://youtu.be/8k7yCpCEWg4

Love Lessons EP 17 Forgive them they don't understand  https://youtu.be/8k7yCpCEWg4

Love Lessons EP 17 Forgive them they don't understand https://youtu.be/8k7yCpCEWg4