Dorothy Stover Love Lesson Episode 26 on the poem Dont Quit. Which inspires to keep going when facing life's challenges.Read More
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Today's LoveBlog/LoveLetter is chock-full!
✨Today We will go over a question that was asked by a few students in The Love School, Help with habits. You'll get info on how to establish a habit, why you don't stick to a habit and tips for time management.
✨Next, I launched a new Masterclass - Love with Intention - 4 Essentials to get the relationship you've always wanted Sign up here: https://dorothystover.easywebinar.live/registration-1
✨And lastly, beginning today I would like to showcase people I know doing awesome things in the world. I want to help spread the word because there may be someone out there that needs or wants whatever they have to share. That's love I want to continue to see in the world. If you have an upcoming event, people let me know. These featured people will be in the PS section of every email. Keep scrolling to see this week's featured people.
✨And on to this week's Love Lesson, using love to establish habits.
✨A few of the students over in the love school have asked about helping with habits. I thought I would make a love lesson to help them as well as anyone else that need some tips for making a habit stick. When we talk about habits we are talking about a lifestyle change in a way. We are switching one way of doing something for something else.
✨We can use love for this. Love is the most powerful energy. Nothing is stronger than love.
✨To make a habit stick, we first need to know our priorities. If something is a priority, we will make the time for it. We will figure out how to make it work. The priority that most people are challenges with is making ourselves a priority. We were taught that's self indulgent or selfish. It's not. All those benefit when we care for ourselves.
✨Why a habit doesn't stick? You either don't love it or it's not a priority. If you don't love be it, find something you love. If it's not a priority, ask yourself why. Something to think about, while you are establishing a habit, something else may be put on the back burner. Once the habit is in place, bring whatever you had to put to the side back in the mix. Look at your priorities and make some decisions. Some of those decisions may be tough.
✨Loving something is the easiest way to make a change in your life. For example, if you're trying to workout more, then find a workout activity that you enjoy. There's so many ways to be active! And there's something for everyone. I sometimes play on a playground. I work my whole body this way and have fun.
✨Time management tricks
✨I set my tomorrow up tonight. Pick 3-5 things you are able to do tonight that will make your day easier tomorrow. For me, it's laying out my clothes, knowing my workout in the morning and knowing my priorities.
✨Next, what are 3-5 things you can do in the am to set yourself up for the day. Mine is make my bed, some form of activity like a workout or yoga and put in a load of laundry.
✨Here's today's love lesson video. Love lessons episode 25 using love to establish a habit https://youtu.be/yRGf_M6JGoM
Peace, Love & Hugs!
✨PS. Featured amazing people
✨Sara Boyce retreat. Costa Rica, adventure and health...yes please! Elite Retreats Pro is expanding beyond Nantucket to Nosara and we are offering a series of fabulous Retreats.
The first Reset Your Compass Women’s Retreat is May 18 - 23, and the next are in November and March (2020). We also have a Couples Valentine’s Day Retreat planned, which will be fun! Elite Retreats will be hosted at The Gilded Iguana, right in the heart of Nosara. It is going to be amazing - and Nosara is an exceptional town. The beach is beyond compare - and the steady surf is terrific for experienced surfers and beginners!
✨Suzanna Kaye. Free 5 day Paper challenge.
If you are like me you have bags of papers you need to go through or you have a paper pile here and there. Suzanna Kaye has a five day paper challenge coming up in a week. I just joined. Thought you might want to as well 💕
I'm ok if you make fun of me for this love lesson!
All jokes aside, perhaps you feel like you're the gardener in the relationship or maybe you feel like you're the flower. Either way, you don't know how to break out of this pattern or you don't want to. Maybe this will give you permission to do so. If you have a harmonious relationship, sometimes it means having your partner take care of you or you taking taking care of your partner.
It's important to do and be both at some point in your relationship. Think back to a time when you really needed a friend and they were there for you no questions asked. Think back to a time you were there for someone no questions asked. It feels good. It's important. And that's community. Your partner is just one part of your community. Take care of each other. Tend to each other. Give each other what they need. And of course, don't forget about your needs.
Here's this week's Love Lesson Episode. Love Lessons Ep 24 Gardener & Flower
Sending love to you today!
Do you know about soul contracts and how we have them with everyone we encounterRead More
Years ago, my friend Doug Smith planted the freedom seed within me. Over a decade ago he was making moves to be able to work from anywhere with his business True Nutrition . This inspired me. About five years ago, I also began moving toward that type of occupational freedom. I wanted to be able to work from anywhere and to be with those I love, to travel freely and not be tied to just one spot.
Now I have that freedom. I can be anywhere in the world, do what I love and contribute. I work every day and a few times a week, I wash my hair, throw it in rollers and plug away just like this. This is what I look like behind the scenes. I work from my bed when I'm home because my cat Jack will climb all over me if I work from a desk. So I brought the desk to the bed. He lays on my lap or beside me and I work away. I love it! Plus, the bed is where I get all my good ideas 💕
Last year I was able to pack myself and Jack up and help my family. While my mother was in the hospital, I was able to be with her and not think about an office I would have to get back to. Being with her during that time, and then having that freedom in the first few months of mourning her, was such a blessing. So many people don't have that luxury to really dig deep into their grief. I remember getting off the phone with a new client and then bursting into tears. I was alone with my cat. I could break down completely, then slowly put myself back together and go back to work when I felt ready to.
My office is always with me. In the coming months I'll be moving back to San Diego, but I’ll always have time for Nantucket. People ask, "what will you do out there?".
And my reply, "Same thing I'm doing now"!
Working from anywhere does have its challenges. I wake up and I start working. This isn't so much a challenge per se because I love what I do, but the boundaries are not quite clear. There are also days I'm not motivated and if you work from home or have your own business you need to stay motivated. No one is going to cover me or do the work for me. I am 100% responsible. Freedom is precious.💕
One of my gigs that allows me to work from anywhere is with a great company called @tawkify. I'm a matchmaker with them. If you're interested in learning more about being a matchmaker, direct message me and we can chat. If you're into love and helping people, this will be perfect for you!
I have spaces left for The Love School Feedback group. You'll have access to The Love School for life as well as a bunch of great goodies! Email me if you're interested email@example.com
Your health should be your number 1 priority. If you don’t have your health, you don’t have anything. This includes your mental, emotional, Spiritual, financial and physical health. Everything is connected. If you feel good, those around you feel good. If you feel like crap, are moody or unstable those around you are effected. So, if you’re mental, emotional, spiritual, financial and physical health are not at a 100% most likely your Love life isn’t either. Side note. Relationship are not always in harmony all the time.
Don’t fret, it takes self care; checking in with yourself and doing the work that is needed to make sure you’re in good health. It means making yourself a priority. It means being selfish every now and then. It means saying no when you want to say no and asking for something when you need it. It means doing what you need to do even when others don’t agree or find it odd. How many of you want to eat better or work out but have others speaking out against it? I certainly know from experience, I had a mentor say to me years ago, “when are you going to gain weight?” I had been eating really well, exercising and taking care of myself. I felt amazing! But this person was insecure with themselves and most people don’t like others to change. Change scares people. And taking care of yourself is very scary to many. Do it! No matter what others think of you or say. Do what you need to do to feel at your best and healthy self. Let others deal with their insecurities .
Which brings us to today's Love Lesson, Your Health Effects Your Relationship. Do whatever it takes to take care of health.
Click here to watch today's Love Lesson 23 - Your Health Effects Your Relationship
This coming Friday, The 22nd of February, I will be hosting a free online workshop, 11 Ingredients For A Great Relationship. Sign up here; http://www.dorothydstover.com/events
If you are reading this after the workshop, I will have a recording and will be able to send to you. Reach out, firstname.lastname@example.org
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Peace, Love & Hugs!
9 Reasons Why You’re Single. Hint: Becauae you're awesome!Read More
As a matchmaker, and a love and dating coach I hear people's complaints about the dating world on a daily basis. It's rough out there. But the truth is, it has always been. Dating is always changing and evolving and has been since the dawn of time. How does one have a great date no matter what? Change your perspective. Ask yourself these questions while on the date:
1. Who is this person? Don't look at them as if you're going to be in a relationship with them long term. Consider them a person who has a story. Get to know that story. You can fall in love with anyone if you know their story, and it truly resonates with you. But, I'm not asking you to fall in love. I'm asking you to look at them in a different way.
After the date ask yourself this question:
2. What can I learn from this experience? You can learn something from everything and everyone. We are on this planet to experience people, places, and things, and to grow and learn. Every moment is an opportunity to do so. Dating is a huge way to grow and learn. In fact, it is sometimes the terrible dates that can teach us the most. (Like what I DON’T want!)
And here's a bonus tip: no matter how the dates goes, be polite. Be a lady. Be a gentleman. Treat them with respect even if they don't show you respect. Why? 1. Because you never know where something may go. This person is leading you to your soul’s romantic partner in one way, shape, or form. Treat them with respect. 2. It strengthens your heart muscle. You'll have automatic responses the stronger this muscle is.
Sidenote: If you would like the three tips on how to unleash your sexual goddess, click here.In a month or so I will be launching my first course of my love school. The course will be a love 101 class. The goal is that you gain a deeper relationship with yourself and others so that you can attracted a deeper romantic relationship.If you would like to be notified when the Love Lessons and the Love School are launched, merely subscribe! (Plus, I give special treatment to those who are subscribed to the 💌)
Join here, http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It's Free, the way love should be. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs! And thank you for reading/watching/sharing and checking in ❤️.Link below for today's Love Lesson Episode
Peace, Love and Hugs,Dorothy
Love Lessons Ep 11 How To Have A Great Date No Matter What https://youtu.be/nUDte37kyPw
Before the LoveBlog, I used to have a weekly column called Freaky Friday on the Nantucket Chronicle. I loved when people would write in asking their love and sex questions. Sex is so taboo. We are suppose to keep everything so quiet. And while I of course love mystery and I believe we don’t have everything, I do believe we are doing ourselves a disservice by not having an open dialog when it comes to sexuality. Because we do not have an open dialog about sex, I see people acting out and not understanding and respecting sex and their own sexual selves.
Hands down the best sex is sex that includes love and connection. It could be the connection to ourselves or a partner. When love and connection are involved with sex, the world makes sense. We are better humans. We have better relationships. We have a healthier self.
Today’s love lesson episode is a little tip for unleashing your sexual goddess and two of my favorite sex toys. I love love love these toys!
Full disclosure I am not being paid for my review. I love these toys so much, I have since gotten rid of all of my other toys. These are just so perfect!!!
If you would like the three tips on how to unleash your sexual goddess, click here.
In a month or so I will be launching my first course of my love school. The course will be a love 101 class, helping you gain a deeper relationship with your self and others so that you can attracted a deeper romantic relationship.If you would like to be notified of when these Love Lessons and the launch of the love school, plus I give special treatment to those whom are subscribed to the Love Letter, join here, http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It's Free, the way love should be. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs! And thank you for reading/watching/sharing and checking in ❤️.
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Love Lessons Ep #9 Unleashing your sexual goddess & my favorite sex toys https://youtu.be/7gkSEf4Ud5U
My great grandfather Murphy said "Love is a choice. Everyday you wake up and choose love". I like to think I am carrying his words on. I like to think I choose love everyday. I don't always. He was talking about marriage and making that choice of love in your marriage and that it needs to be made everyday. I have extended that to make the love choice everyday in every eay, not just romantic love. It's not always easy but when I do connect with my heart, I'm happier. I see for my clients that when they come from this space, they too are happier.
Do you think you could make the love choice or at least strive to? When you're at the grocery store and someone takes your spot, will you choose love? When someone posts something on social media and it offends you, will you choose love? When someone you love doesn't love you the way you want to be loved, will you choose love?
There are lots of examples, challenging examples of choosing love. It's not always the easiest choice to make but it's the one that leads to a better world and a happier self.
It's also ok if you're like me and sometimes you stumble, yell and choose fear. We are human. I keep reminding myself after I stumble to realign myself with who I really am in my heart, mind and body...and that is love. And so are you. You are love. To view today's Love Lesson Video please click below.
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Today's Love Lesson Video
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