Dorothy Stover

Helping You Bring More Love Into Your Life

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LoveBlog -Freedom


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✨Freedom✨

Years ago, my friend Doug Smith planted the freedom seed within me. Over a decade ago he was making moves to be able to work from anywhere with his business True Nutrition . This inspired me. About five years ago, I also began moving toward that type of occupational freedom. I wanted to be able to work from anywhere and to be with those I love, to travel freely and not be tied to just one spot. 

Now I have that freedom. I can be anywhere in the world, do what I love and contribute. I work every day and a few times a week, I wash my hair, throw it in rollers and plug away just like this. This is what I look like behind the scenes.  I work from my bed when I'm home because my cat Jack will climb all over me if I work from a desk. So I brought the desk to the bed. He lays on my lap or beside me and I work away. I love it! Plus, the bed is where I get all my good ideas 💕

Last year I was able to pack myself and Jack up and help my family. While my mother was in the hospital, I was able to be with her and not think about an office I would have to get back to. Being with her during that time, and then having that freedom in the first few months of mourning her, was such a blessing. So many people don't have that luxury to really dig deep into their grief. I remember getting off the phone with a new client and then bursting into tears. I was alone with my cat.  I could break down completely, then slowly put myself back together and go back to work when I felt ready to. 

My office is always with me. In the coming months I'll be moving back to San Diego, but I’ll always have time for Nantucket. People ask, "what will you do out there?". 

And my reply, "Same thing I'm doing now"! 

Working from anywhere does have its challenges. I wake up and I start working. This isn't so much a challenge per se because I love what I do, but the boundaries are not quite clear. There are also days I'm not motivated and if you work from home or have your own business you need to stay motivated. No one is going to cover me or do the work for me. I am 100% responsible. Freedom is precious.💕

One of my gigs that allows me to work from anywhere is with a great company called @tawkify. I'm a matchmaker with them. If you're interested in learning more about being a matchmaker, direct message me and we can chat. If you're into love and helping people, this will be perfect for you! 

I have spaces left for The Love School Feedback group. You'll have access to The Love School for life as well as a bunch of great goodies! Email me if you're interested dorothy@dorothydstover.com

LoveBlog - 9 Reasons Why You're Single

9 Reasons Why You’re Single. Hint: Becauae you're awesome! 

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LoveBlog - Free healing/prayer sign up & new Love Lesson - Forgive them, they don't understand

I recorded this week's love lesson while my mom was in the hospital almost two months ago. Actually, I have this video and two others I will be posting in the coming weeks. All recorded during this time. I didn't get around to posting them because my focus was on my mom and I couldn't quite wrap my head around much.

My mom has since passed and now more than ever I need my own love lessons.

We are each walking a path that no one can walk for us. No one can learn the lessons we need to learn. We certainly can help each other as well as give advice and guidance but we can't live life for someone else nor can others live life for us.

With that said, people won't know or understand where we have come from or our current circumstances because they are not us. They may have walked a similar path and have some form of understanding. It will never be exactly the same. Why? Because no two people are exactly the same. We all have different experiences and perspectives. It's neither good nor bad. It does make for miscommunication and misunderstandings. It also makes for an opportunity to forgive because not everyone is going to be there for you the way you would like them to be. Not everyone will react to a situation the want you expect them to react. Not everyone will process the same way you process. This can be frustrating. So forgive. Let it go. Their path is not your path. Challenging to say the least. I understand it full well having been through the time in the hospital with my mom and now grieving. People, including myself, say stupid things that don't make sense.  My mother always taught me no two people grieve the same. I'll take that further, no two people see the same way. 

I wrote last week how prayers and healings really helped my mom and how I would like to turn my grief into love and honor for her. Each week people are able to sign up for their prayers and healings here. It's free. Lay down in a comfortable space at 9pm every Tuesday. Be open to receive the healing and prayers. http://www.dorothydstover.com/healingprayers/

Click below for this week's Love Lessons EP 17 Forgive them they don't understand https://youtu.be/8k7yCpCEWg4

Love Lessons EP 17 Forgive them they don't understand  https://youtu.be/8k7yCpCEWg4

Love Lessons EP 17 Forgive them they don't understand https://youtu.be/8k7yCpCEWg4

LoveBlog - Unleashing your sexual goddess & my favorite sex toys

Before the LoveBlog, I used to have a weekly column called Freaky Friday on the Nantucket Chronicle.  I loved when people would write in asking their love and sex questions.  Sex is so taboo.  We are suppose to keep everything so quiet.  And while I of course love mystery and I believe we don’t have everything, I do believe we are doing ourselves a disservice by not having an open dialog when it comes to sexuality.  Because we do not have an open dialog about sex, I see people acting out and not understanding and respecting sex and their own sexual selves.

Hands down the best sex is sex that includes love and connection.  It could be the connection to ourselves or a partner.  When love and connection are involved with sex, the world makes sense.  We are better humans.  We have better relationships.  We have a healthier self. 

Today’s love lesson episode is a little tip for unleashing your sexual goddess and two of my favorite sex toys.  I love love love these toys!

Full disclosure I am not being paid for my review.  I love these toys so much, I have since gotten rid of all of my other toys.  These are just so perfect!!!

If you would like the three tips on how to unleash your sexual goddess, click here

In a month or so I will be launching my first course of my love school. The course will be a love 101 class, helping you gain a deeper relationship with your self and others so that you can attracted a deeper romantic relationship.If you would like to be notified of when these Love Lessons and the launch of the love school,  plus I give special treatment to those whom are subscribed to the Love Letter, join here, http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It's Free, the way love should be. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs! And thank you for reading/watching/sharing and checking in ❤️.

Link below for today's Love Lesson Episode

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Love Lessons Ep #9 Unleashing your sexual goddess & my favorite sex toys https://youtu.be/7gkSEf4Ud5U

Loveblog - Don't enter into a relationship until you have this first.

If your number 1 priority in life is your significant other you're liable to feel the following; unappreciated, lack of love, unbalanced, a feeling as though you have lost who you are and last but not least, drained.

Why? Because your number one priority should be yourself.  You should come before anything else; family, work, your significant other. You matter. You should be number 1. It's not selfish, it's common sense. If you're not feeling healthy and whole, you're not available for your family, friends, work or a relationship. If you keep giving yourself away, you'll have nothing left. Love should flow to and from you. Sometimes love doesn't come from others the way we would like it to. This is why it's important to love ourselves and understand we need to give ourselves the love we need and not rely on others to do it for us. 

In a month or so I will be launching my first course of my love school. The course will be a love 101 class, helping you gain a deeper relationship with your self and others so that you can attracted a deeper romantic relationship.If you would like to be notified of when these Love Lessons and the launch of the love school,  plus I give special treatment to those whom are subscribed to the Love Letter, join here, http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It's Free, the way love should be. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs! And thank you for reading/watching/sharing and checking in ❤️.

Link below for today's Love Lesson Episode what you need before entering into a relationship. 

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Love Lessons Episode 8 #1 Thing you need before you're in a relationshiphttps://youtu.be/WBTYoyFZMzQ

LoveBlog - 3 ways for you to fall in love with anyone

It’s 4 in the morning. I’m up to workout and accomplish a few things for me before the kids are up for school. These precious morning hours are spent on me; workout for me, meditate for me, read and continue education for me. I currently have no makeup, my hair isn’t brushed, my teeth are for sure not brushed. This is me. This is the real me. We are never more real that when we first wake up in the morning. The reason I say all of this is if I don’t love myself like this, who will? I also say this because the surface doesn’t matter. It’s all superficial. There will be people out there that will find me attractive and others that will not find me attractive. It doesn’t matter. There will be people out there that are attracted to you and not attracted to you. It doesn’t matter. What really and truly matters is in your heart. It’s your passions. It’s the good deeds you do that you don’t tell anyone about. It’s how you treat others. How you treat yourself. It’s your purpose that matters. When it comes to finding a significant other and being in a happy relationship this has nothing to do with the outer surface and everything to do with what’s inside and the connection. Chemistry comes in various different ways but the greatest comes down to heart.

If what’s on the outside is a priority for you, then you’re not ready for long lasting love. You’re not in that mind set to reach deep love. You still have some ways to go. You’re like shallow hal. And that’s ok. I would suggest staying single and work on yourself. Learn to love and accept yourself. The love of self will lead you to the deeper love. That really great passion and amazing sex love comes from the deep love. The love people are wishing for, the everlasting love has nothing to do with what’s on the outside and everything to do with what’s on the inside.

What is the type of love that matters and is best long term? Let me give an example from TV...One you can pick up and watch for yourself.  There’s a Sex in the City episode where Miranda is giving her husband’s mother a bath.  Her mother in law has dementia and was lost and dirty when she showed up at the house. The woman that has been cleaning Miranda’s house for years walked by the bathroom to see this and smiled to Miranda. Later said to Miranda’s “that is love” and hugged her.

This is the truth. If your significant other isn’t willing to treat your family like their family. If they aren’t willing or wanting to step up to help without being asked, don’t marry them. They are not ready for marriage and long term partnership. If you’re not ready for this deep of love, don’t get married. Sure date, wear protection because you don’t want to have a baby with any woman or man that isn’t ready for that type of love. Because things will get real.  You can still have attraction, great sex and a real life relationship.  It takes searching and seeking the best in each other and being there no matter what.  It takes seeing them for their good and their heart.

If you’re not there, there are things you can do to reach this deep kind of love and not focus on the surface.  This is this week’s Love Lesson, 3 ways to fall in love with anyone no matter what they look like.  Click here to watch this week’s Love Lesson.

If you would like to be notified of when these Love Lessons are posted plus I give special treatment to those whom are subscribed to the Love Letter, join here, http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It's Free, the way love should be. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs! And thank you for reading/watching/sharing and checking in ❤️


Today's Love Lesson Video

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Love Lessons Episode 7 - 3 Ways to fall in love with anyone no matter what they look likehttps://youtu.be/LFnkg8XliE0

Loveblog - The Sexiest and Most attractive Thing Ever!

Practically every client I have, whether they are a matchmaking client or a relationship client, they all want someone that is confident. When digging deeper into what is confidence and why do they want it the conversation usually leads to the following answers; because there's something about them and confidence is sexy.

For those out there that are concerned they will never find someone because of their age, their weight or their desires know that sexy and attractiveness has very little to do with apperences and more to do with how you carry yourself. If you're someone that feels good about who you are, you'll exude confidence. That's the most attractive and sexiest quality you can have. And know you don't have to be loud to be seen as confident. People are very attracted to those that have a quiet confidence.

That's what today's Love Lesson is all about, under five minutes of the sexiest thing about anyone.  To view today's Love Lesson Video click here; Love Lessons Episode 6 Whats The Sexiest Thing https://youtu.be/mWJPa8NnFmI

 

If you would like to be notified of when these Love Lessons are posted plus I give special treatment to those whom are subscribed to the Love Letter, join here,http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It's Free, the way love should be. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs! And thank you for reading/watching/checking in ❤️

Today's Love Lesson Video

Love Lessons Episode 6 Whats The Sexiest Thing  https://youtu.be/mWJPa8NnFmI

Love Lessons Episode 6 Whats The Sexiest Thing https://youtu.be/mWJPa8NnFmI

LoveBlog - Love Is A Choice

My great grandfather Murphy said "Love is a choice. Everyday you wake up and choose love". I like to think I am carrying his words on. I like to think I choose love everyday. I don't always. He was talking about marriage and making that choice of love in your marriage and that it needs to be made everyday. I have extended that to make the love choice everyday in every eay, not just romantic love. It's not always easy but when I do connect with my heart, I'm happier. I see for my clients that when they come from this space, they too are happier. 

Do you think you could make the love choice or at least strive to? When you're at the grocery store and someone takes your spot, will you choose love?  When someone posts something on social media and it offends you, will you choose love?  When someone you love doesn't love you the way you want to be loved, will you choose love?

There are lots of examples, challenging examples of choosing love. It's not always the easiest choice to make but it's the one that leads to a better world and a happier self.

It's also ok if you're like me and sometimes you stumble, yell and choose fear. We are human. I keep reminding myself after I stumble to realign myself with who I really am in my heart, mind and body...and that is love. And so are you. You are love. To view today's Love Lesson Video please click below. 

If you would like to be notified of when these Love Lessons are posted plus I give special treatment to those whom are subscribed to the Love Letter, join here, http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn. It's Free, the way love should be. It takes about 30 seconds to sign up. Peace, Love & Hugs! And thank you for reading/watching/checking in ❤️

Today's Love Lesson Video 

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 https://youtu.be/xvasdw0QdNY click here for today's Love Lesson Video 

LoveBlog - How to Rise with Love

Falling in love on the surface sounds absolutely wonderful doesn’t it!  Below, at the root of what it means to fall in love, essentially means to fall.  What happens when we fall?  We get hurt.  There is no way to not get hurt.  Even if you avoid people all together, you’ll still end up hurting because all humans need love and connection.  It’s a basic need.  So if one of your basic needs are not being met in some way, shape or form, you’ll hurt on some level.  I want you to love.  If falling in love is your game then do it.  Today I would like to offer an alternative, to rise with love.  To always remember to come from a place of love. I can’t say you won’t get hurt but you will feel better about your relationships with all people and how you are within the world.  I am putting myself out there a little more and have decided to start a YouTube Channel.  Here is the first episode of Love Lessons, How to not fall in love but to rise with love.  I hope you like it!  Now my channel is a baby channel.  This is my first video. So if you like it, please let me know.  If there’s something you think I can improve upon, please let me know.  It will really help me become my best self and hopefully help others with love within themselves and their lives.  I will have videos out every Tuesday.  (I’ve already recorded and edited the next three and plan on keeping this schedule and being consistent.)

 

Thank you for the love!  To receive these directly into your email box, sign up for the LoveLetter here; http://eepurl.com/bFrkfn

Here’s the first episode! Peace, Love & Hugs! Dorothy

 

Thank you for watching the first episode of Love Lessons, How to not fall in love but to rise with love.

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My hair: my own but I had help styling it. Ask for Amanda at The Hair Company in New Hampshire.
My face is my own but someone used their artistry to make me look camera ready. Skin by Olivia at Nashua Sephora store
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