Dorothy Stover

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LoveBlog -Freedom


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✨Freedom✨

Years ago, my friend Doug Smith planted the freedom seed within me. Over a decade ago he was making moves to be able to work from anywhere with his business True Nutrition . This inspired me. About five years ago, I also began moving toward that type of occupational freedom. I wanted to be able to work from anywhere and to be with those I love, to travel freely and not be tied to just one spot. 

Now I have that freedom. I can be anywhere in the world, do what I love and contribute. I work every day and a few times a week, I wash my hair, throw it in rollers and plug away just like this. This is what I look like behind the scenes.  I work from my bed when I'm home because my cat Jack will climb all over me if I work from a desk. So I brought the desk to the bed. He lays on my lap or beside me and I work away. I love it! Plus, the bed is where I get all my good ideas 💕

Last year I was able to pack myself and Jack up and help my family. While my mother was in the hospital, I was able to be with her and not think about an office I would have to get back to. Being with her during that time, and then having that freedom in the first few months of mourning her, was such a blessing. So many people don't have that luxury to really dig deep into their grief. I remember getting off the phone with a new client and then bursting into tears. I was alone with my cat.  I could break down completely, then slowly put myself back together and go back to work when I felt ready to. 

My office is always with me. In the coming months I'll be moving back to San Diego, but I’ll always have time for Nantucket. People ask, "what will you do out there?". 

And my reply, "Same thing I'm doing now"! 

Working from anywhere does have its challenges. I wake up and I start working. This isn't so much a challenge per se because I love what I do, but the boundaries are not quite clear. There are also days I'm not motivated and if you work from home or have your own business you need to stay motivated. No one is going to cover me or do the work for me. I am 100% responsible. Freedom is precious.💕

One of my gigs that allows me to work from anywhere is with a great company called @tawkify. I'm a matchmaker with them. If you're interested in learning more about being a matchmaker, direct message me and we can chat. If you're into love and helping people, this will be perfect for you! 

I have spaces left for The Love School Feedback group. You'll have access to The Love School for life as well as a bunch of great goodies! Email me if you're interested dorothy@dorothydstover.com

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LoveBlog - Are You Living Someone Else's Life?

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 By all senses of the word, you are living your life. You're doing you right? But the question I am asking is, are you living someone else's life?  And What I mean by this, are you following someone else's rules? Are you doing what someone else told you was the best way to live or be? Have you adopted a norm than is not your own?  Essentially, being someone else's normal. 
 I think it's important to ask these questions because we (and when I say we I include myself) can find ourselves going through the motions, living in a routine or a feeling as though we are in a rut. We think "well this is the way life is supposed to be, isn't it?"  "This is how it has always been done". "I was told to be good or happy I need to do this". 
 
 Do you ever stop to think, that way of living", the one you've adopted is someone else's life?  
 I have. I have found that because I don't want to be judged or because it seems easier, or safer, this is what or how I will live my life. Maybe just an aspect. Maybe just a life formula for happiness because someone told me that was the key. 
The thing is, we are all so different. Our life paths are different. So, maybe our own personal formula isn't an exact science for the rest of the world. For example; I was brought up Catholic, but I have a great love for all religions. I also love studying different religions, this fascinates me to no end. I believe in a way of aspects each religion believes. I believe in a single God. But what's true to me, is not universal; past and future lives, Angels, Saints, and so on and so forth. 
What I am trying to say is, I don't take the all or nothing approach to religion. I take what feels right in my heart to be my truth and right for me. I also don't cast aside what I believe doesn't serve me or I don't currently believe in. It very well could in the future. For example, I believe women should have a more active role in the Catholic Church, like being able to become priests. Maybe this is a belief I don't understand as of now. Maybe there's a very good reason why only men are able to become priests. Maybe some day I'll know. Or maybe someday the Catholic Church will adopt my belief. It is what it is. 
This is just one of many personal examples of not following the norm.  So how do you discover where your path begins and someone else's resides? It takes time and fine tuning your heart. 
 Here are some ways to practice. And please take this into account, it's practice and no one and I mean no one on this planet has it 100% right all the time. Not a monk up in the mountains, Oprah or the most emotionally intelligent person on the planet. We are all figuring this out as we go. 
 
 - Mediation: You want answers to become quiet and turn your awareness inside your body. You can sit and focus on your breathing; the inhalation and the exhalation. There are also guided meditations. I have one coming out soon, 28 day mediation for love and better relationships. Side note, people who receive my love letter will receive the meditation for free. Join here if you haven't already. 
 - Journaling: Sounds strange but it works on so many different levels. Write your thoughts down. Get them out of your head and onto paper, or your computer. Check out mind mapping, which can help with stress. 
- Prayer: The more you pray and ask for guidance the more your heart is open to receiving the answers and guidance you need. Remember sometimes the answers to your prayers are not exactly what you were asking for or what you were thinking of. A good rule of thumb when asking for things is to say "for the best and highest good for all. This or something better."  
 
- Heart and Gut Exercises: This could stem from meditation but the idea is to strengthen your heart intuition. Ask yourself, does this feel right? Do I feel good about this? Am I doing this for the right reasons? Years ago, I decided my life would be about love and that everything I would do in life I would do for love. I have to ask myself all the time, "do I love this?" "Am I doing this for love?" If the answer is yes I proceed. If not, I evaluate and ask a few more questions "is this helping me get to something I love?" "Do I need to do this for love?"  If the answer is yes, I proceed; if not, then I leave it. 

This brings up to today's love tip. "Everything in your life, do it for love"

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Peace, Love & Hugs!
Dorothy

Please find the Nantucket Dharma Yoga teacher schedule below, which includes the classes I guide as well as the other teachers.  And if you would like a private session with me which includes any combination relationship coaching, self-love, mediation, healing and yoga, contact me at 508-221-3394 or email me,Dorothy@DorothydStover.com

For class changes and to book your spot, clickhere .

  • Sundays
  • 8:15 am - 9:30 am Dharma Yoga all levels
  • 10:00 am - 11:15 am Restorative Yoga
  • Mondays
  • 8:15 am - 9:30 am Alignment Based Hatha Sheri Perelman
  • 10:00 am - 11:15 am Dharma Yoga all levels Joann Burnham
  • 10:30 am - 11:45 am Aerial Yoga Sheri Perelman
  • 5:30 pm - 6:45 pm All Levels Ted Burnham
  • Tuesdays
  • 7:00 am - 8:00 am Hatha All Levels Dorothy Stover
  • 8:15 am - 9:30 am Dharma Yoga all levels Joann Burnham
  • 10:00 am - 11:15 am Somatic Movement and Stretch Lynne Begier
  • 10:30 am - 11:45 am Aerial Yoga Joann Burnham
  • 5:30 pm - 6:45 pm Dharma Yoga all levels Joann Burnham
  • Wednesdays
  • 8:15 am - 9:30 am Alignment Based Hatha Sheri Perelman
  • 10:00 am - 11:15 am Restorative Yoga Sheri Perelman
  • 10:30 am - 11:45 am Aerial Yoga Dorothy Stover
  • 5:30 pm - 6:45 pm Hatha All Levels Dorothy Stover
  • Thursdays
  • 7:00 am - 8:00 am Hatha All Levels Dorothy Stover
  • 8:15 am - 9:30 am Dharma Yoga all levels Joann Burnham
  • 10:00 am - 11:15 am Somatic Movement and Stretch Lynne Begier
  • 10:30 am - 11:45 am Aerial Yoga Joann Burnham
  • 5:30 pm - 6:45 pm Dharma Yoga all levels Joann Burnham
  • Fridays
  • 8:15 am - 9:30 am Alignment Based Hatha Sheri Perelman
  • 10:00 am - 11:15 am Dharma Yoga all levels Joann Burnham
  • 10:30 am - 11:45 am Restorative Aerial Yoga Sheri Perelman
  • 5:30 pm - 6:45 pm Candlelight Restorative Joann and Ted
  • Saturdays
  •   8:15 am - 9:30 am Dynamic Yoga Lynne Begier
  • 10:00 am - 11:15 am Somatic Movement and Stretch Lynne Begier

We look forward to sharing space with you, Namaste. For class changes and to book your spot, click here . 

LoveBlog - Don't turn your back on love.

Loveblog. Don't turn your back and on love.

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Today is Day 22 of #MoreLoveMarch and it's to kiss someone you love. The whole idea behind more love March is to bring more love into the world. Before the month began, I knew this would be a tough month for not only myself but others. I know the little prompts each day has helped me feel love on days love was the furthest thing from my mind. If you're following along, I hope it's helped you as well. I know for some, this month has been very taxing and challenging. There's so much going on; astrologically, election year and energetically. There are also so many happy times and miracles as well. How could there not be? The world likes balance. For every hurt there is a healing.

 

There's an infinite amount of ways to love and be loved. Don't deny whatever way love comes to you. A hug from a stranger, a kiss from a muddy dog, or the chance to say I love you when you mean it. Don't deny love. Don't turn your back on it. And if you think you don't have love in your life, become that which you want. Easier said than done, I know. Take a moment and write down what's missing in your life, then star what you could do yourself. Think outside the box. And please, to bring balance, write down all the good things in your life. All of what you are grateful for. 

 

Which brings me to today's love tip, kiss often. Kissing is a hug for the lips and the heart. A kiss is a direct connection to parts of ourselves we don't share with others. A kiss on the cheek can chase the blues away. A kiss makes the world a better place.

 

If you would like to follow along, catch up or share your love moments please use #MoreLoveMarch

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This week's yoga offering is getting back to basics, the root chakra. The root chakra governs your place and connection in the world and to other people, your basic needs like money, food and shelter. Wednesday, 530pm Dharma Yoga Nantucket upstairs at in the hayloft at Bartlett's Farm. Come feel grounded and secure.

 

If there is someone you think would benefit from this post, please share this with them. If you would like more love sent to your email box, please join the LoveLetter HERE. It's free! Just the way love should be.

 

Peace, Love & Hugs!

Dorothy

40 Days of Love - Day 38 - Reading +Giveaway ++Reading Challenge

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I love to read! Now, with technology, I am able to read at a fairly normal pace. I'm dyslexic, so it can take me a wee bit longer to read than your average person. Sometimes I have to go over things a few times to understand or to actually be able to read what's on the page. I find reading is easier for me when done on my phone or tablet. Even with this challenge, I love to read. Knowledge, education and sheer entertainment are what fuels me to get past a fear of not understanding. I always have a few books in rotation at any given time. I love it!  There is nothing like the love of a good book. "You know you’ve read a good book when you turn the last page and feel a little as if you have lost a friend." –Paul Sweeney

With the new year about to begin,  I have a challenge for you. I want 2016 to be your greatest year yet! (And if you're reading this after 2016, I want whatever year you are in or about to be in, to be the greatest yet!) I think you can achieve this with some inspiration from certain books. Here is my 'Have the best year ever' reading list challenge. With these books, by 2017 you will have improved relationships, success, less stress, feel at peace, be balanced, have a heart full of love, feel heathy, exude passion, travel and be a goddess/god in the kitchen. In short, your best year ever! (A big thank you to Jason Bridges of The Handlebar Cafe, Nantucket Bike Tours and Social Bridge Consulting. Over the years he's suggested books for me to read and each one was a jem!  There's at least two books off this list that I read because of him.)

 

January:  How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

Almost everyone on this planet has interactions with people. It doesn't matter what you do for a living, this book will help in your day to day relationships in and out of the office. 

February: The Power of Now by Eckart Tolle 

This book was difficult for me to read, because I'm still working to fully grasp the concept of living in the now. It's not a 'just read once' kind of book. You could read this book a few times throughout the year and gain more insight each time. It's the perfect book for February, when many are thinking about romance, as this book will help you drop your ego. Ego is usually what's holding each of us back from happiness.

March: The Emotion Code By. Dr. Bradley Nelson

This book is easy to read and very helpful. It discusses and then demonstrates how we keep emotions in our body, and how that is usually the cause of the troubles within our lives, including diseases. The book gives an easy 'how to' on how we can easily discover and then release these trapped emotions.

April: The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris 

This book is a great book to read over and over as well. It's going to piggyback off of the power of now, but it won't be as daunting to read. It really helps in gaining that whole mindfulness people keep talking about!

May: The Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman

Everyone loves differently. When you discover how you express your love as well as how others around you express their love, you'll have a deeper understanding of how to interact as well as understand your relationship. This works for couples and singles alike.

June: Difficult Conversations by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen

Ok, so by now you should be having better relationships, and feeling more mindful in your everyday life. You're now ready to know how to handle any difficult conversation from work to romance to your family. If you've ever had an interaction with a human being, you should read this book.

July.: The Four Hour Workweek. By Tim Ferriss

It's July, it's time your life was more in balance so you can enjoy...life! This book helps you create the sought after work-life balance. We all know the key is to be productive. This book will help you do this! You'll end up getting more accomplished in four hours than most do in a week. This way you can enjoy your time with family, friends and playing on the beach.

August: Outlander. By Diana Gabaldon

Man or woman will love this book series! History, A strong female character and a main male character who is what I believe every man wants to be like. This will be the perfect laid back reading you've been looking for. You deserve it! You've done a lot of work these past few months, time to relax with some adventure, history and romance.

September:  Within by Dr. Habib Sadeghi

Coming out of the summer for the Northern Hemisphere, or going into summer for the Southern Hemisphere, usually sparks the reminder to eat right and take care of your body. This book takes an approach that continues with the mindfulness theme we've had all year. You'll feel ready to take on the challenge of the new, healthy self-lovin' you!

October: The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

I believe that the past eight or so months have changed you and you're ready to take things to the next level. You're ready to make a promise to yourself and the world. You've become more mindful, your relationships have improved, you have balance in your life. Now it's time to make a full agreement with your heart and soul. This book will help you do so. 

November: Comfort me with apples by Ruth Reichl

It's time to travel! Even if you can't physically leave wherever you are, this book will help you do so in your mind. Plus, much of the book takes place in the 1970s.  Ruth has a way to her writing that makes you feel as though you are right there with her, experiencing the love, food, heartaches, and smelling the air and aromas. Incredible!  Each chapter has an amazing recipe.

December: The Time Traveler's Gift by Andy Andrews

You've made it to the end of the year! Congrats! The Time Traveler's Gift is an easy, quick read that is going to help remind you of what you already know and have learned through this year. The book takes you to parts of history,  and you are able to meet historic figures as they are about to embark on something great. They question themselves but they power through. This book will help you end the year right and feel empowered for the new year.

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Share this challenge with whomever you think may benefit from seeing it. I also suggest picking up these books from your local book store or library. On Nantucket, we have two very wonderful book stores! Mitchells Book Corner and Bookworks. Check them off if you're on island. They are a slice of reading heaven.
Today's giveaway will be of my upcoming book, War on Love. This book is about my love lessons, mistakes, love stories and how I learned that the true war on love is an inner battle. My goal is to help you find the ultimate love in your life. When the book is released, you'll be the first to receive it! To enter to win, share this post or comment below mentioning a book you love or whether you prefer to read on a tablet or the old fashioned way, a paperback. 

Peace, Love & Hugs!
Dorothy

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