Dorothy Stover

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LoveBlog -Freedom


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✨Freedom✨

Years ago, my friend Doug Smith planted the freedom seed within me. Over a decade ago he was making moves to be able to work from anywhere with his business True Nutrition . This inspired me. About five years ago, I also began moving toward that type of occupational freedom. I wanted to be able to work from anywhere and to be with those I love, to travel freely and not be tied to just one spot. 

Now I have that freedom. I can be anywhere in the world, do what I love and contribute. I work every day and a few times a week, I wash my hair, throw it in rollers and plug away just like this. This is what I look like behind the scenes.  I work from my bed when I'm home because my cat Jack will climb all over me if I work from a desk. So I brought the desk to the bed. He lays on my lap or beside me and I work away. I love it! Plus, the bed is where I get all my good ideas 💕

Last year I was able to pack myself and Jack up and help my family. While my mother was in the hospital, I was able to be with her and not think about an office I would have to get back to. Being with her during that time, and then having that freedom in the first few months of mourning her, was such a blessing. So many people don't have that luxury to really dig deep into their grief. I remember getting off the phone with a new client and then bursting into tears. I was alone with my cat.  I could break down completely, then slowly put myself back together and go back to work when I felt ready to. 

My office is always with me. In the coming months I'll be moving back to San Diego, but I’ll always have time for Nantucket. People ask, "what will you do out there?". 

And my reply, "Same thing I'm doing now"! 

Working from anywhere does have its challenges. I wake up and I start working. This isn't so much a challenge per se because I love what I do, but the boundaries are not quite clear. There are also days I'm not motivated and if you work from home or have your own business you need to stay motivated. No one is going to cover me or do the work for me. I am 100% responsible. Freedom is precious.💕

One of my gigs that allows me to work from anywhere is with a great company called @tawkify. I'm a matchmaker with them. If you're interested in learning more about being a matchmaker, direct message me and we can chat. If you're into love and helping people, this will be perfect for you! 

I have spaces left for The Love School Feedback group. You'll have access to The Love School for life as well as a bunch of great goodies! Email me if you're interested dorothy@dorothydstover.com

LoveBlog - Free healing/prayer sign up & new Love Lesson - Forgive them, they don't understand

I recorded this week's love lesson while my mom was in the hospital almost two months ago. Actually, I have this video and two others I will be posting in the coming weeks. All recorded during this time. I didn't get around to posting them because my focus was on my mom and I couldn't quite wrap my head around much.

My mom has since passed and now more than ever I need my own love lessons.

We are each walking a path that no one can walk for us. No one can learn the lessons we need to learn. We certainly can help each other as well as give advice and guidance but we can't live life for someone else nor can others live life for us.

With that said, people won't know or understand where we have come from or our current circumstances because they are not us. They may have walked a similar path and have some form of understanding. It will never be exactly the same. Why? Because no two people are exactly the same. We all have different experiences and perspectives. It's neither good nor bad. It does make for miscommunication and misunderstandings. It also makes for an opportunity to forgive because not everyone is going to be there for you the way you would like them to be. Not everyone will react to a situation the want you expect them to react. Not everyone will process the same way you process. This can be frustrating. So forgive. Let it go. Their path is not your path. Challenging to say the least. I understand it full well having been through the time in the hospital with my mom and now grieving. People, including myself, say stupid things that don't make sense.  My mother always taught me no two people grieve the same. I'll take that further, no two people see the same way. 

I wrote last week how prayers and healings really helped my mom and how I would like to turn my grief into love and honor for her. Each week people are able to sign up for their prayers and healings here. It's free. Lay down in a comfortable space at 9pm every Tuesday. Be open to receive the healing and prayers. http://www.dorothydstover.com/healingprayers/

Click below for this week's Love Lessons EP 17 Forgive them they don't understand https://youtu.be/8k7yCpCEWg4

Love Lessons EP 17 Forgive them they don't understand  https://youtu.be/8k7yCpCEWg4

Love Lessons EP 17 Forgive them they don't understand https://youtu.be/8k7yCpCEWg4

LoveBlog - Thy Will Be Done

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We are co-creators in our lives. We have a say and we also have Gods plan. Together we make a beautiful piece of stained glass artwork that can enhance any space. Our story-lines are not exactly set in stone. We have the desired outcome and lessons we need to learn along the way. There will be people that come into our lives when we need them. Whether the exchange is loving or challenging, sometimes even heartbreaking. I am reminded and I try to remind others; we can learn our lessons in a loving way. Still, there are some lessons that can only be learned through heartache or heartbreak. Growth that can only happen through seeing the shadow parts of ourselves, along with others. The shadow self comes to the surface to heal so that we can move forward and grow. Which brings us to today’s Love Tip, Let go and Let God.

Let go and let God does not mean you don't do the work or put in the effort. You do and you should. If you really listen and reflect, you'll see that things do happen for a reason. That the lows will catapult you to your wonderful life full of possibilities. Where once you feel small or stagnate, you will feel renewed, large and alive if you allow it.  It's hard to do this.  That's why not everyone does.

It's not easy to let go and let God. It's not easy to let go.  It’s not easy to be open.  It’s not easy to have an idea of how your life should be or what it should look like and then have that assumption come apart.  To be open to what is from your spirit self and not from your ego self, is truly where you will see the most wonderful changes occur in your life.  To be open to being cracked open so that you can truly see what you are made of is a gift. 

I was brought up Catholic but I consider myself spiritual not wanting to put a label on my beliefs because I feel that's not inclusive.  Saying I belong to one group, separates me from others.  I don't want to be separated, I want to feel connected. We are all children of God. I struggled with my faith for a long time. Especially after my assault. If you have been reading my writing for years, you would know I was assaulted at the age of 16.  After my assault, I wondered what many in any traumatic position have thought, “Why did this happen to me?”  “Am I bring punished?”  After the fact, I thought God abandoned me.  While I was being assaulted, I do remember a few moments when I felt God was with me. I felt God "save" me sort of speak from the pain that was being inflicted upon my body. I felt myself being removed from my body. Still, I was a teenager and not understanding what was occurring with my body and my mind, then  my spirit also wavered.

My dreams have always been very powerful and continue to become more powerful, as I get older. I find in my dreams I have no ego. Which makes allowing myself to feel or believe something easier. The questions I struggle with in my waking life, have clarity in my dreams. When I need answers, I will look to my dreams because of my lack of ego. I know what I am being shown is from the spirit and my heart of hearts where true love and no judgment is held. My junior or senior year in high school I had a dream that allowed me to find my faith again. I was riding around in a car with friends, we were acting like teenagers; causing trouble and getting into trouble when the car went over a cliff. I held onto the side of the cliff for dear life and I began to pray to God to help me. "Please save me God" I said as I felt my fingertips lose their grip and the sand begin to crumble under my hands. I saw a great white light cascade over me and fill up my sight. I felt warm, comforted and at peace. I woke up calm and in a way, renewed. After I lost my faith, that's the true moment I believed in God and what God means within my life.

My mother once said to me that faith is not taught, it's caught.  My assault changed my trajectory.  As a child, I wanted to grow up to be a mother and a wife.  After my assault, my purpose changed.  If I hadn’t been assaulted, I know I would have been married soon after high school.  Because of the change in my purpose I have gone on to travel the world, live all over the country, connect to those I would have never connected to and help others heal in ways I would have never imagined.  I have often said, “I have loved enough for a thousand lifetimes.”  And I have and continue to love and find love within my life.  I hope you do as well.  I hope you realize you are a co-creator in your life.  Listen to your heart and always chose love.  This is my wish for you.

And If you found this post to be helpful, please share. And if there's someone you think would benefit from it, please forward onto them. If you like this post and would love more love sent to you join the LoveLetter here. It's free! Just the way love should be.

If you're looking for yoga and meditation with me, here's the Dharma Yoga Schedule Dharma is my yoga home; where I teach and practice. 

If you missed the latest episode of Island Girls Podcast with ACKtive Life, click here to listen.  

https://soundcloud.com/dorothy-stover/islandgirlspodcastepisode1introductions

 

Peace, Love and Hugs,
Dorothy

PS. I love this song by Hillary Scott and her family.  She wrote this song after she experienced a miscarriage.  It's a very powerful song that brings tears to my eyes.  Video here