LoveBlog - Why I write hand written letters to my significant other

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Letters are a dying art form. Gone are the days of communicating via the post. Also if I may be so bold, writing love letters is a dead way to court someone. I would like to revive this beautiful and loving art form. Taking a page from the past and being inspired by my Granny, She wrote to my Grandfather for years before they were married while he was away at university. He also wrote her every Christmas until he died, along with her gift (jewelry), in her opinion the note was the true gift. My family would gather around her as she read the letter and cried. We called this, "a gotcha gift."

I try to write a letter a week to my hunny or whenever I feel called to do so. I don't exactly have much in the way of what I say. I talk about my day, I paint a picture of my surroundings and I talk about us. Actually, I usually write about the things I'm too afraid to say to him. The pen and paper is some distance between these scary emotions I am feeling. The fears which pop up from loving someone and knowing your world will no longer be just you nor will it ever be the same again, would be something that would hold me back from love in the past. I share this with him. Even though this is a distance exploration of myself, this in turn allows me to feel somehow closer to him. Sure, we talk on the phone, text, email and see each other but I find letter writing to be my favorite way to connect to him besides the physical presence of being around him. One major reason for this excitement around letter writing is that I have no expectations. I don't expect him to write back. I don't expect him to reply. I don't expect him to receive the letters right away. In fact, I don't even know if he will. I'm ok with all of this. I love the energetic connection I feel to him as I write these letters. I feel connected to him in a way I've never felt with anyone. I feel connected to parts of myself I never knew were there. Plus, I know for him it's nice to receive something in the mail that's not a bill, or junk mail. He receives a few pages of love from me and maybe it brightens his day, which makes me feel good. And since I know most likely no girl he has been with before has written letters and certainly most likely he's not getting letters in the mail on a regular basis, this makes me feel this weekly ritual is special for the both of us. I have actually felt my capacity for what is a healthy relationship to grow. We all live in a world where everything feels instant. Where waiting five minutes feels like eternity. I find letter writing helps to slow the moment down. Slow my world down. I'm free from expectations which is a blessing because I know expectations has a tendency to ruin things. We expect a certain outcome from a situation or person and when something doesn't meet those expectations somehow the person or event wasn't as pleasant as we were hoping. Yet when we have no expectations and our minds are open to something, it can be the most wonderful of surprises. Which brings us to today's love tip. Explore, play and grow with no judgment or expectations of your relationships and with yourself. 

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Please find the Nantucket Dharma Yoga teacher schedule below, which includes the classes I guide. And if you would like a private session with me which includes any combination relationship coaching, self-love, mediation, healing and yoga, contact me at 508-221-3394 or email me, Dorothy@DorothydStover.com. Peace, Love & Hugs!

 

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Sundays

8:15 am - 9:30 am Dharma Yoga all levels

10:00 am - 11:15 am Restorative Yoga

4:30pm - 5:45pm All levels. Free donation based class. Dorothy Stover 

Mondays

8:15 am - 9:30 am Alignment Based Hatha Sheri Perelman

10:00 am - 11:15 am Dharma Yoga all levels Joann Burnham

10:30 am - 11:45 am Aerial Yoga Sheri Perelman

5:30 pm - 6:45 pm All Levels Ted Burnham

Tuesdays

7:00 am - 8:00 am Hatha Dorothy Stover

8:15 am - 9:30 am Dharma Yoga all levels Joann Burnham

10:00 am - 11:15 am Somatic Movement and Stretch  Lynne Begier

10:30 am - 11:45 am Aerial YogaJoann Burnham

5:30 pm - 6:45 pm Dharma Yoga all levelsJoann Burnham

Wednesdays 

8:15 am - 9:30 am Alignment Based Hatha Sheri Perelman

10:00 am - 11:15 am Restorative Yoga Sheri Perelman

10:30 am - 11:45 am Aerial YogaDorothy Stover

5:30 pm - 6:45 pm HathaDorothy Stover

Thursdays

7:00 am - 8:00 am HathaDorothy Stover

8:15 am - 9:30 am Dharma Yoga all levels Joann Burnham

10:00 am - 11:15 am Somatic Movement and Stretchlynne begier

10:30 am - 11:45 am Aerial YogaJoann Burnham

5:30 pm - 6:45 pm Dharma Yoga all levelsJoann Burnham

Fridays

8:15 am - 9:30 am Alignment Based HathaSheri Perelman

10:00 am - 11:15 am Dharma Yoga all levelsJoann Burnham

10:30 am - 11:45 am Restorative Aerial YogaSheri Perelman

5:30 pm - 6:45 pm Candlelight Restorative joann and ted

Saturdays

  8:15 am - 9:30 am Dynamic Yogalynne begier

10:00 am - 11:15 am Somatic Movement and Stretchlynne begier

 

We look forward to sharing space with you. Namaste