LoveBlog - Love is...

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Love is so many things isn't it? We think love is complicated but this couldn't be further from the truth. Love is simple. In fact, the more pure the love, the less complicated. It's our human selves, our egos, our minds that complicated things. We put conditions on love and expect unconditional love in return. We want someone to love us for who we are yet, we have trouble loving ourselves in this way. We're afraid to love for fear a future that hasn't come to pass and a fear of getting hurt. I have found that love does what love does without thinking, or conditions or fear. The more you can let go, the more love floods into your life. And it's not nessisarily love received but also love given. Love doesn't make the pain go away. Love reminds us that the world is a wonderful place to live in and we are lucky to be alive. 

You know it's love when you give freely without wondering how your love will be returned.  Maybe our romantic relationships would be better and longer lasting if we weren't worried about how someone will love us but if we are coming from love when we are with them. Which brings us to today's love tip, In life and relationships, come from a place of love, not fear. 

"'Tis better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all." Alfred Lord Tennyson

It's a part of the journey to have pain, frustrations, to be upset with others. It's also part of the journey to bounce back, feel strong, and love without expectation. But how does one do this? How does one bounce back, or forgive, or move on? With practice. It's not overnight. This process is a lifelong journey. It's forgiving yourself when you don't get it right. It's forgiving others when they don't get it right. Why? Because no one is perfect. We are all flawed. Yet, these flaws, these imperfections help us to not only love fully and completely, but help our souls evolve. That feeling of love without conditions is one of the best feelings on the planet. It's a gift from God. The feeling that we are improving. That we are becoming wiser, stronger and more gentle is a gift to ourselves. Equally both are incredible to feel and strive for. We can't force it. We just do what we can and someday, without realizing it, we will be there. It could take a lifetime but that is the wonderful exploration of the self and of love.

Two Practices to help you love and evolve.

-Don't blame yourself or others. Most of us want to find a reason for something bad happening. We blame ourselves or we blame others. Practice not finding blame. Instead, what can you learn? What is the good that can or did come from something? Personal example. I was assaulted at 16. I no longer blame them or myself for what happened. I see my life actually better for having gone through this trauma. I feel I'm a better person for this experience. I've been able to help others as well. 

-Love, expecting nothing in return. Parents do this everyday. They love without expecting something in return. Sure if feels good to have the love returned but it's not the drive. Act with love. Take out the trash, give a back rub, do things they may not even know you're doing for them. Personal example. My love knows I love to sit next to them during meals and I love to touch them. We were out to a restaurant and it was very hot in the space, he was uncomfortable and sweaty. Still, he let me sit next to him, touch him until I realized he was uncomfortable and said something, to which he said he was suffering in silence. Why? Because he knew how much I love to be near him. (Side note: it's a fine line of suffering in silence and giving too much. I would hate for anyone to become resentful. This is a practice of mindfulness.)

I know all of these exercises are easier said than done. That's why it's important to practice. Everyday you try. Don't give up on yourself or others. As I have said before, everyone is lovable and love able. 

This week's yoga offerings.  

Wednesdays class will have an emphasis on the throat chakra. Which is the energy point for speaking and living your truth. Ever had a cold or sore throat? You could be holding onto things you want or need to say but feel you can't. Those energy and thoughts must go somewhere, usually causing pain or discomfort in the body until you release it. Come let go with me on the mat, 530pm with Dharma Yoga, upstairs in the hayloft at Bartlett's Farm. 

Yoga Offerings this week.Click here to book your spot.

Monday's. Restorative with Sheri. 830am. All Levels with Ted. 530pm
Tuesday's. Dharma Yoga 830am and 530pm with Joann.
Wednesday's. Hatha 830am with Sheri. Hatha 530pm with me.
Thursday's. Dharma Yoga 830am and 530pm with Joann.
Friday's. Hatha 830am with Sheri. Is canceled this week because of Aerial Yoga Continuing education. Candlelight restorative 530pm with Ted and Joann is still on. 
Saturday's. All levels. 415pm with Joann.  Is canceled this week because of Aerial Yoga Continuing education.
Sunday's. All levels 830am and gentle 1015am with Joann. Is canceled this week because of Aerial Yoga Continuing education. 

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Peace, Love & Hugs!

Dorothy