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Want to get hurt in life, love, work, relationships, parenting, or physical activity? Compete with others. While in yoga camp, aka yoga teacher training at Rishikesh Yog Peeth in India, one of my teachers stated that injury only occurs when we compete with others in the room. Isn't it the truth?! We look around to the people next to us. What are they able to do? Let me try to do that too. Then bam, a pulled muscle or we moved our body in a way it wasn't ready for yet.
Recently someone asked me if I practice yoga at other studios besides Dharma Yoga Nantucket. I said, of course. (Although, it's rare.) They kept talking about competition and business. I told them that it is not a competition. That's not what yoga is about. They didn't quite understand, and went on talking about if someone doesn't like your class they will go to someone else, etc. I eventually said, "there's no competition because there are plenty of people to teach for everyone." I didn't go into my viewpoint further because they dropped it once I said that. The core of Yoga isn't about competing. It's about going inwards, not outwards to others. People will be attracted to the teachers that will help them with what they need, when they need it. If someone doesn't like how I am guiding the class or what I am doing, I know there is someone better for them as well. There are students who enjoy how I teach and who I am as a teacher. I want each person, no matter if they are in class with me or with someone else, to receive whatever it is they need. It's not a competition. This can be applied to every area of one's life; when we compete we get hurt.
Don't worry about being better than anyone else. When we worry about being the better parent, about beating out other businesses, or when we compete with others for the affections of someone else, we will get hurt in the long run (or short run). It could be physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, or spiritually, but one way or another it comes back to bite us.
So how does one still succeed? We all have bills to pay, love we want to give and receive, awesome kids we want to raise, we want to have kickass bodies and be our best selves. How do we do this without competing with others? We listen to our hearts. Sounds cliche, I know but it works. And the more you do it, the more fine tuned this guide will become. Listening to your heart allows you to know which direction to go in. It shows you which lessons you need to learn and what is best for you- from food and exercise to the job you have. Listening to your heart is inner rather than outer work. You don't need others to tell you what is best for you. The biggest obstacle is letting go of your ego or your head. Your head or ego will want something but your heart will not. One trick to deciphering ego (head) from soul (heart) is the feeling you get. That lighter than air feeling. Ego wants things for you to make you look better. The heart wants things that make you feel better.
Lastly, if you must compete, compete with yourself. But even then do this with some forgiveness. I love the saying that not even a flower blooms all year. You don't have to either.
Yoga offerings this week.
Wednesday at Dharma Yoga Nantucket upstairs in the hayloft at Bartlett's Farm, 530pm Hatha Yoga class with an emphasis on the heart chakra (energy point). When this chakra is in balance all things you love flow to and from you.
Saturday, 9-10am at Greater Light. One of the beautiful historic spots from the NHA. Book your spot HERE.
Sunday at Dharma Yoga Nantucket up stairs in the hayloft at Bartlett's Farm 830am all levels and then 1015am Gentle.
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