What if falling mad in love with someone were as simple as asking a few questions? There has been years and years of research and studies done on these questions that have been known to make the subjects fall in love. The conclusion is these 36 questions when two people complete them face to face, they experience love. One example being two strangers completing the questions from start to finish, face to face as well as looking into each other's eyes for four minutes, six months later they married. They weren't the only couple. The end result or goal isn't so much marriage but to see how deep we can go with someone else. These questions probe into our stories, allowing the other person to get to know us on a deeper level, while also allowing us to be vulnerable. This vulnerability can very be where love can grow from. It has been said, that if you get to know someone and their story, you'll love them. I know this to be true. Today's love tip is knowing that you can love anyone, even yourself, once you know the whole story. And everyone has one. Here are the 36 questions. They are broken up into sections. You may complete all in one sitting or break them up over a few dates. The questions are meant for strangers or those just beginning to get to know each other, but I think married couples or couples that have been together for some time would benefit from them as well. Maybe even help the two of you grow deeper in love. If you have completed these questions, I would love to hear your story! Leave a comment below.
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joke about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
Original study here.
This Wednesday's yoga offering at Dharma Yoga Nantucket in the hayloft upstairs at Bartlett's Farm we will be getting back to pleasure and joy with the sacral chakra. The sacral chakra is the energy point that rules our joy, pleasure, sexuality and creativity. Hope to see you Wednesday at 530pm.
Dharma Yoga Nantucket upstairs in the hayloft at Bartlett's Farm. Yoga Offerings this week.Click here to book your spot.
Monday's. Restorative with Sheri. 830am. All Levels with Ted. 530pm
Tuesday's. Dharma Yoga 830am and 530pm with Joann. This week I sub her morning class and Sheri her evening class
Wednesday's. Hatha 830am with Sheri. Hatha 530pm with me.
Thursday's. Dharma Yoga 830am and 530pm with Joann. Sheri will be subbing her morning class and I her evening class.
Friday's. Hatha 830am with Sheri. Candlelight restorative 530pm with Ted and Joann. This week Sheri will be guiding this class.
Saturday's. All levels. 415pm with Joann. Sheri will be subbing
Sunday's. All levels 830am and gentle 1015am with Joann. Sheri will be subbing.
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