Dorothy Stover

Everything I do in life, I do for Love.

The Love Writer. Entrepreneur. Health Lover. Everything I do in life, I do for love.

Freaky Friday Post - With Great Vagina Comes Great Responsibility

Post from Freaky Friday on The Nantucket Chronicle

 am going to speak to all the women right now. It's not by chance that you were born a woman. It's by choice. Make no mistake about it, women are incredible.  'With great vagina comes great responsibility' is not about your sexuality, it’s about being female and what that means.  I’m talking about the super power you were born with; just the sheer fact that you are a woman.  We women are powerful creatures, more so than we give ourselves credit for.  What a sole woman can achieve always amazes me.  What a group of women can do makes me proud to have a vagina. As with everything in life, you have a choice in how you will wield your super power; will you exercise your super power for good or for evil?  Will you lift other women up or will you compete and try to knock them down?  Will you inspire others or live in bitterness?

I hope you choose good.    

I hope you’re ‘you’ in everything you do so that your inner light shines brightly for all to see. I hope you don’t shy away from the light because you don’t feel worthy.  I hope you don’t try to dim someone else’s light because you’re jealous.  If you and all the women around you are shining brightly, that in turn helps to brighten the world, as well as inspire others to shine as brightly as they can.  Imagine if we had women all over the world that knew exactly how capable they truly are and what they are meant to do?  We would be unstoppable!  Not only that, we would live in a happier world full of light and joy.  As Dr. King has said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” 

I was born a girl to a very strong woman, from a long line of strong females. These women took their lives into their own hands and didn’t allow others to speak for them, bring them down or tell them what they couldn’t do or what they were capable of.  My great-great grand mother was the first hairdresser on Nantucket, and she had a very successful business.  The women in my family were on the front lines fighting for women's suffrage.  My mother instilled strength in my sisters and I from a young age; “What are you girls never going to do?” She would say as we drove to school in the mornings.  In unison we would shout, “Depend on a man!” My mother would follow this up by telling us that we have to be able to take care of ourselves.  She wanted her daughters to have the strength to stand up for themselves, and not depend on someone else to make their choices.  She wanted independent, educated daughters.  

As I grew up, I took some of mother's teachings of her own strength and of the women in our family. I have patch worked her knowledge and weaved it through my own beliefs to make a tapestry that is always growing and evolving. It comforts me and keeps me warm through the tough times as well as the good times. I have always known women are powerful.  I know  when women stand up and support each other, we can accomplish great things. In fact, we end up exceeding our beliefs and the beliefs of others. I believe those in the world who want to belittle or oppress women, see the power that we females possess-  even when we're not able to.  That’s why they do what they do, because of fear.  

With great vagina comes great responsibility. What is that responsibility? In my opinion, it's to shine your light as brightly as possible so others feel inspired to shine theirs. To encourage and bring women up to new levels, not force them down. To know who you are, and be uncomprising in that, while at the same time being willing to develop and educate yourself. To be right with your past, happy with your present and excited for the future. If you're being who you are meant to be in this moment, you are doing the world a great service! 

No more being the victim or blaming men or other women for your problems. You're stronger than guilt, you have a f*cking vagina! I mean come on. It can do wondrous things: it can populate a universe, your lady parts can expand 200% , the clitoris has 8000 nerve endings (the penis has 4000), it can take care of its own health by self cleaning, and this powerhouse can take whatever is thrown at it and bounce back. Just like us! 

Peace, Love & Hugs,

Dorothy